Advanced search think you can't just leave 11 people waiting while you nip next door to bf your baby?

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Yoplate Tue 17-Oct-17 19:06:01

One of our neighbours is hosting a murder mystery for several couples in our cul de sac. One couple have a bf 6m baby. They have accepted neighbour's invitation and are having a grandma over to babysit. Neighbour is planning to wait for Gma's call and then she can just nip home to feed baby back to sleep if she wakes up and the murder mystery script can wait for 10 mins. Surely SWBU to expect the other 11 guests to just wait for her? V. unlikely she'll be only 10 mins. Host neighbour and I think she should decline invitation.

SilverDragonfly1 Tue 17-Oct-17 19:07:20

Maybe you could incorporate it into the script?

Pigeonpost Tue 17-Oct-17 19:08:01

Well, that's charming of you. biscuit

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 17-Oct-17 19:08:56

An't the grandma bring the baby over since it's just down the round and the BF guest can keep on participating in the game with the babe on the boob?

fucksakefay Tue 17-Oct-17 19:09:12

Glass of wine
loo break

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 17-Oct-17 19:09:16

Down the round - down the road

humblesims Tue 17-Oct-17 19:09:30

would it be such a hassle to take a short break?

Littlechocola Tue 17-Oct-17 19:09:47

Host neighbour invited her but now wants her to decline?

Can’t she bring the baby and feed as and when she needs. Less disruptive.

Taffeta Tue 17-Oct-17 19:11:05

Poor woman jeez. With “friends” like you. Pfft.

Katescurios Tue 17-Oct-17 19:11:23

Did the host know she was BFing exclusively when she invited her friend? If she did then what was the expectation?

- hope that she declines
- hope that she starts bottle feeding just so she can attended the do
- hope that she's alright leaving her baby to cry so she can finish the game

If a short break will really affect the game then could the BFing mum be given a smaller role that will have less impact if she goes missing for a bit?

GrapesAreMyJam Tue 17-Oct-17 19:11:36

I was invited to one of these murder mystery things last year and loved it. But having to pause the storyline for a length of time would have caused a lot of the storyline to get forgotten. Although we did have a meal in the middle of the evening.
Is the host planning on having a break halfway through?

Firenight Tue 17-Oct-17 19:11:56

She should just bring the baby - far less hassle!

DollyPartonsBeard Tue 17-Oct-17 19:11:58

Fag break, surely?!

Nancy91 Tue 17-Oct-17 19:12:37

I can see both sides, but I do agree with you that it's disruptive and likely to take more than 10 minutes. Not sure what to suggest really.

Myheartbelongsto Tue 17-Oct-17 19:13:09


kali110 Tue 17-Oct-17 19:15:14

I dont think yabu, for the reasons GrapesAreMyJam has said.
What happens if its longer than 10 minutes? Or more than once?

Atenco Tue 17-Oct-17 19:15:22

would it be such a hassle to take a short break?


Oysterbabe Tue 17-Oct-17 19:15:36

Wow that party sounds like a barrel of laughs, you can't even chat and have a drink for a bit while someone feeds their baby.

grasspigeons Tue 17-Oct-17 19:15:53

You can't just chat, go for a wee, pour a glass of wine for 10-15 minutes in the event the baby wakes mid script.

You don't really sound very accommodating or welcoming if you see that as an issue. It's meant to be fun.

User1457 Tue 17-Oct-17 19:16:42

She's probably really looking forward to it. Just chat amongst yourselves and let her feed her baby.

MsPassepartout Tue 17-Oct-17 19:16:52

Can't grandma pop over with the baby if it needs feeding?

Agree a feed is likely to take more than 10 minutes if my breastfed babies are anything to go by.

ethelfleda Tue 17-Oct-17 19:17:12


QueenNefertitty Tue 17-Oct-17 19:18:19


Will nobody want a loo break, a fag break, just a bloody break in the whole course of the evening? That won't take much less time... will you be suggesting anybody who needs a shit, has a nicotine habit or stops for a non murder mystery related reason stays home too?

KurriKurri Tue 17-Oct-17 19:18:53

You are right.
Fictional murders take priority over everything.
No one must leave the premises or untold pretend mayhem could ensue.

Will no one think of the imaginary police, isn't their job hard enough ?????

MadMags Tue 17-Oct-17 19:18:54

They're not really designed to just stop part way through though.

I do think host shouldn't have invited her though! If she was going to just want her not to come!

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