Friend's gf is throwing him a surprise party for his 21st birthday. Evening party just before Halloween, so there will be drinking and costumes etc.
Several people invited to the event have asked if they can bring their kids. The host has said yes so obviously she doesn't think it's a problem as such but Aibu to think that this isn't the best occasion for kids and that they should get babysitters?
I just don't think a 21 yr old wants to have a birthday party on a Saturday night with a load of unrelated young kids running around! Obviously he doesn't know about the party so he can't object.
I have gone to a good few 18th/21st birthday parties with children there because they are family friendly parties with grandparents/young cousins everyone all there. I assume the host knows what sort of party it is going to be and if it's fine for children to be there.
If the 21 year old wants to do something with just adults/friends he could always do a night out or something as well.
When I was 21 I was incredibly unaware of what was going on around me tbh and wouldn't have thought twice about getting drunk with kids around. Tbh I still wouldn't care about getting drunk with kids around as long as they weren't mine
I was at my uncles 21st birthday. We had a wonderful time. I especially remember waking up as a 3yo does and going to find him to see if he wanted to play. It wasn't too early, I'm sure. At least it was light. He was curled up in his sleeping bags with about 20 of his friends on the lounge floor, so I looked into each one until I found him and then leapt on him and tickled him. Being a lovely uncle he responded in kind, got up and made us a breakfast picnic and chased us round outside until the rest of his friends emerged.
Until I had children myself it didn't occur to me how he probably didn't want to get up. I think he's forgiven me anyway.