DH believes I went about this the wrong way..
Our 5 year old is at the point of lying. He's trying his luck, but it's not going very well because he's not very good at it!
Anyway.. he did something (minor really). He dragged his school bag along the wet grass while I ran back in the house for something. DD4 told me - as younger siblings always do!
I asked him if he did it. He said no repeatedly.
So I asked him why his bag had a wet drag mark on it. I also told him that I wasn't going to tell him off for dragging it, but I will if he keeps lying.
He admitted that he did drag it.
I asked why he lied to me, he said he didn't know.
All of this happened in the space of around 7 minutes i would say.
Now - every day, I buy them a little something from the shop to have after school. It may be a 30p pack of candy sticks or a chocolate bar etc. Just a little something to eat on the way home.
So I told him that because he lied to me, I wouldn't buy him anything that day.
I explained this to DH when I got back from the school run. He told me I was taking it too far because he only lied over something minor. "Because he's only 5"
But I see it as whether it's minor or major - he still lied and he needs to understand that it's not a good thing to lie.
I didn't even tell him off or raise my voice at the time.. I just simply said "because you lied to me, I won't be getting you anything from the shop today".
DH ended up bringing him something home from work because he said I was being unfair.
Basically, was I being unreasonable by not buying him something, as punishment for lying.
I also didn't buy anything for DD, nothing was actually said when I got them. It's like they didn't even notice I had no snacks!
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
Punishment for lying
79 replies
bumblebee24 · 17/10/2017 14:05
OP posts:
Itsanofromme ·
17/10/2017 14:39
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Itsanofromme ·
17/10/2017 14:39
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Pengggwn ·
17/10/2017 14:46
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.