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I gave birth to my beautiful DD 8 weeks ago, and whilst I love her dearly and enjoy spending my days with her, being exhausted all the time is having a huge impact on my relationship with DH. Events occurred before the birth that have made life difficult emotionally for us (we lost a very close family member unexpectedly just 2 weeks before DD was born). I can see DH is struggling with the loss, but it’s like he’s shut down emotionally. He won’t talk about what happened, and when I attempt to bring it up he gets very moody and walks away. I’ve suggested counselling but he won’t entertain that idea at all. He just won’t discuss it full stop. I’ve asked him to see the doctor but he won’t.
So, getting back to the exhaustion, obviously having a newborn is tiring and we’re both incredibly irritable, and we’re just snapping at each other all the time. I’m hoping that as DD gets a bit older and settles into a routine I’ll be able to spend a bit more time with DH in the evenings. I’m just tired of feeling disconnected from him, and I know part of that is down to the bereavement and him processing his feelings internally. I also feel like he’s not as connected to the baby as he would’ve been had the events prior to the birth not have happened, and I really don’t want this to have a long term effect on his relationship with DD.
AIBU to hope that it will get better in time? Today has been a rough one, both very tired and had a huge argument over nothing. I’m just trying to hang on in the hope that things will get back to how they were because we really do love each other underneath it all. I just miss him being the fun, loving person he used to be.
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To hope that it will get better? Bereavement and a newborn
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Stripesandstars44 · 15/10/2017 21:14
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