Daddy-daughter Date

[HarrietKettleWasHere]

Ok, obviously I know this is an American concept/video but I was scrolling through Facebook this morning and one of my UK friends said he couldn't wait to do that with his baby daughter.

Isn't it a bit.....odd. I'm struggling to put my finger on exactly why but while it's obviously lovely to spend time with your kids one on one....why on earth would you put it in a 'date' catogory?! A small child doesn't need to know how to date

AIBU to think this is totally weird? A lot of the comments are things like 'I'm going to make sure my husband does this with our little girl so she knows how a lady should be treated!'

Can't you just advise her when the time comes rather than dress up having your tea together as a bloody date? It is weird isn't it or am I being really awful and everyone thinks it's a lovely concept

[AuntieStella]

Hate the terminology, and good self esteeem in our DDs comes from rather more than the odd set piece event.

Nothing wrong with taking your DC out individually and making a fuss of them in line with their interested, btw. That's normal parenting.

Quite a lot wrong with making a thing of it.

[LunchBoxPolice]

Ewww weird.
Just spend time with your kids and treat them well. You don't need to call it a 'date' and make a show of it for everyone else - date sounds romantic anyway.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

Eeew

Can't they just have one to one love bombing instead

[Trueheart1]

Seems quite grim and creepy to me.

[Tailwagsdog]

Calling it date is off. Going on a date means it's with someone who is or you're hoping will be a romantic partner.

[Trampire]

It's hideous.

My DH parents my dd. They go to the cinema occasionally together, or he takes her to get a new pair of jeans if I'm too busy. A lot of the time they argue with each other because dd is an angry teen and DH is a wind-up merchant.

The idea that they should hi on some kind of pseudo romantic date makes me vomit.

It's heathy to spend time with your dd, but as a parent and treat her as person in her own right - not only 'special' because she's a little lady all dressed up going on a romantic night out.

[Isadora2007]

The term date is cringe for an interaction between a parent and child.
The idea of a one to one time is a good one- especially where there may be a number of siblings. It can be difficult to spend that time with each child. I used to diarise (is that a word??) some one to one time for each child at the weekend nearest their birth- date eg the 15th of the month for one and the 28th for the other. We would just go grab a McFlurry or go bowling or even just a walk.

[Parker231]

Seems very odd to me. Definitely both parents should try and spend one to one time with their DC’s but that’s parenting not a ‘date’.

[bingbongnoise]

Weird.

Daddy/daughter DAY yeah. But date! It does imply romance. Ewwwww.

[PinkyBlunder]

So you mean, the father parents and spends time with their child?

[HarrietKettleWasHere]

I fishy what to go on too harsh at first but it makes me feel quite sick actually!

The video ends with the screencap- 'you'll always be her first love....' ewwww not romantic love though... it's not the same thing!

[crumpledwand]

I think it's like when you arrange to meet a friend and once you've finished making arrangements you say "It's a date!" I know what You mean though I don't really like how both get dressed up like a proper date and go out that's just a bit strange.

[ElizabethLemon]

God that video 😖.

Take your daughter out for a meal and to the park, spend quality time with her etc. but why on earth present it as a date? It's just unnecessary and totally cringe worthy.

[Hellywelly10]

Its sexualising and fucking disgusting.

[Youcanstayundermyumbrella]

The whole concept is inappropriate sexualising, and actually also enforcing a stupid message that a woman's self esteem is entirely dependent on romantic interactions, so a father needs to mimic one to build it.

Fathers build their daughter's self esteem every day, by taking them seriously, treating them with respect, encouraging them to have opinions, to explore their own abilities and feel secure in their parents' love. That's how to teach your daughter how she should be treated.

The idea of reducing all that to frilly dresses and a meal out makes me feel truly depressed.

[Maroonie]

I think it's just changing the use of the word date, lots of people say friend date or mate date. two male friends going out is often called a man date.
It's 2 people spending time together with nobody else, it's not sexual

[Maroonie]

I wouldn't use it but these days everything gets turned into a hashtag type name it's just another one of those

[HarrietKettleWasHere]

He doesn't even help her gets dressed, the mom does it. I bet he hands her over to the mom for pjs/teeth/bed when the 'date' is finished too

[TerracottaTurtles]

Nauseating.
Who was the other bloke - the dad's partner?
Why was he "nervous" about spending time with his daughter? Why was he wearing a suit to run around the park with her?
Twat!
I also cringe at married couples having a "date night"

[upperlimit]

Daddy date sounds benign alongside lunch date or play date but then when you add in stuff like that clip and all the guff about daddy being your first love and, well, it seems affected at best.

[Maroonie]

Oh I may have commented prematurely as I didn't watch the video- I was just commenting on the term. This seems to be a whole different ball game

[SuperBeagle]

Hate it. Very creepy.

Just spend time with your children like a good parent FFS. There's no need to label it if it's nothing exceptional.

[ErrolTheDragon]

'Date' sounds all kinds of wrong. Both the 'romance' and the implication that dad taking out one of his kids is in any way remarkable.
Is this strange concept ever applied to women and their sons? Or women/daughters, fathers/sons?

[CamperVamp]

Nauseating guff.

[pringlecat]

It's all very American and a bit cringe, but they both look happy enough in the video.