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To tell old "friend" to do one or be diplomatic?

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NikiBabe Fri 13-Oct-17 00:47:36

I have an old friend, or more of an acquaintance really, whom I have not seen for several years. Worked together. Not really close then. Occassioanlly spoke and were friendly but didnt socialise outside work.

I wished her happy Christmas on facebook via message years ago and she replied. I saw we had a mutual friend or two via work on facebook. Sent her a friend request which she didnt accept so I eventually withdrew it and thought nothing more of it.

I got a request from her fairly recently which i accepted. We have been chatting and catching up. I havent really looked at her profile as I'm not that bothered about going through people's historic facebook timelines in detail. She finally told me she has her own business now and would I like to hear about it and I said sure as of course I dont mind hearing about what she is up to.

I just looked at her facebook profile in depth. Her business is a MLM / pyramid scheme. So she friended me to try and recruit me I'm sure. One the one hand you have to be pretty desperate to try and pull in someone you have not seen for many many years and were not even friends with so I sympathise but on the other hand, I hate MLMs and the urge to tell her to do one and I am not up for joining a pyramid scheme.

Or just block and delete?

Theweasleytwins Fri 13-Oct-17 00:49:33

Block and delete. She is probably used to it

Aquamarine1029 Fri 13-Oct-17 01:06:51

Block and move on. She's not interested in your friendship.

MinervaSaidThar Fri 13-Oct-17 05:30:41


With no guilt whatsover.

CoughLaughFart Fri 13-Oct-17 08:16:08

I find the whole 'block and delete' thing (which seems to be a mantra on Mumsnet) a bit over-dramatic to be honest. Has she actually asked you to join this scheme? Or done anything to particularly upset or annoy you? If not, just don't engage with her any further on this topic. No need for some big gesture.

Papafran Fri 13-Oct-17 08:20:33

I would accept but first hint of 'hey hun, I have these great products you would love', delete and block. A work colleague's sister added me and then started the MLM. I had never met the woman- I worked with her sister 6 years ago and we were never very close. MLM bots are ruthless.

UserThenLotsOfNumbers Fri 13-Oct-17 08:25:37

Sounds fishy but I’d give the benefit of the first!
Stay friends but not if she then tries to recruit you. If she does just say no...she’ll probably unfriend you for doing this first so prob no need to block and delete.

NikiBabe Fri 13-Oct-17 09:07:25

She didnt beat around the bush. Her last message was want to hear about my business. We know What she means by that

NikiBabe Fri 13-Oct-17 09:08:17

Im waiting for Her to start telling me now.

Trills Fri 13-Oct-17 09:10:49

Oh dear.

If you can be bothered there are tips on here about helping friends who have got sucked into the MLM con.

If you were perfectly fine with having fallen out of touch, and you suspect that she got back in contact just to push her agenda, you don't owe her anything and don't have to talk to her.

NikiBabe Fri 13-Oct-17 09:13:46

I think so as I sent her a friend request years ago which she didnt accept.

Now she's involved in a mlm she friends me out of the blue and within a few messages wants to tell me about her business

HerOtherHalf Fri 13-Oct-17 09:18:20

You know the answer. She's not interested in you as a friend, just as a potential recruit into the Ponzi scheme. Disconnect from her by whatever means you think will work and feel no guilt. If she takes offense you're not losing anything because she's not your friend anyway.

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