I’m single and on Tinder. My profile picture is just a head and shoulders shot because I haven’t got any of my whole body - I will
sort one out soon though as it would avoid the situation I’m about to describe.
I’m a size 16 so could be viewed as fat by some. I’m not particularly bothered by this and I understand it’s down to personal preference and you can’t help what you find attractive or not attractive, and I accept that. I also know that some people do find it attractive. So whatever.
A man messaged me and he seemed really nice and interesting and we were having a nice chat. He suggested meeting for coffee and I said ok. He asked if we could chat on WhatsApp instead and I said fine (just as easy to block on there as tinder so not an issue in my eyes)
So we continued to chat and he compliments my picture. At that point I thought it was reasonable to mention my size, not in an apologetic way at all, but just so that he’s aware in case it’s a big deal and I really don’t want to arrive to meet someone to be greeted with a look of disappointment so it’s best to be honest.
So I told him I was a size 16 and he asked me to send him a full length picture. I said, politely, that if it was that important to him then we probably weren’t suited, and I wished him all the best etc. If he had said it wasn’t a problem, rather than asking for a picture, then that would have been fine. Equally if he’d said straight off the bat that he goes for slimmer women I would have left it there and then. I just felt that it was quite rude of him to ask so that he could judge, and would have been humiliating for me to sit there waiting for his judgement!
He immediately replied no, come back, looks don’t matter to me it’s fine but again I politely repeated that I was going to leave it there and goodbye then I blocked him.
Now, WIBU? I know we’re all being judged on our looks on dating sites, and as I said I’m going to include a full body shot to avoid the awkward conversation but was I a bit harsh on him? Or would you have done the same?
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Flarrot · 12/10/2017 21:33
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