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AIBU?

Group of Friends

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tattiehat · 12/10/2017 19:21

Really not sure if I ABU.... apologies if this is long!

I am part of a group of (girl) friends who met a couple of years ago whilst we were all in the same situation (being vague as don’t want to put myself).

I formed a particularly strong friendship with one of the group but kept in touch with the rest (mostly thru Facebook), we’re fairly geographically spread but usually manage a social get together about twice a year.

The last time we met there were 5 of us who made it, had a lovely time having a few drinks and a laugh.

Towards the end of our get together there was a bit of animosity between 2 of the girls, there’s always been something not quite right between them but my closest friend from the group (one of these 2) says she always felt the other girl either didn’t like her or something else.

Anyway, I went away to the loo and called my hubby whilst in there so was away for a while, when I came back there was no sign of them, then a barman came and took me into a back room where I find my friend with blood pouring down her face, the other girl had glassed her! This is all going through the police.

So move to today where 2 of the group meet up with the girl who assaulted the friend, I honestly do not understand how they can do this knowing what happened?

As it was my closest friend who was assaulted AIBU to feel angry about this?

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 12/10/2017 19:25

I would have nothing to do with any of them tbh.

TheLittleShirt · 12/10/2017 19:26

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer still! Prehaps that is their reasoning?

MusicToMyEars800 · 12/10/2017 19:27

Yanbu, I wouldn't want to be meeting up with someone who had glassed a friend of mine.
Sorry to hear about this happening to your friend.

Goosegrass · 12/10/2017 19:28

Was the 'same situation' borstal?

tattiehat · 12/10/2017 19:30

Haha! No not borstal!!

It was in fact all having babies in NICU! I think this makes it even worse!

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nightshade · 12/10/2017 19:33

Some get together...time to call it all quits...

Papafran · 12/10/2017 19:34

Jesus. Yeah, I was going to ask if you all met in prison or something. I would cut contact with all of them- they sound like a rough bunch and god knows what they might do if you get on the wrong side of them.

tattiehat · 12/10/2017 19:35

I think you’re right nightshade, my friend who was the victim is very much part of my life but I think the rest of them there’s not much point, time to move on.

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Neoflex · 12/10/2017 19:38

Wow OP that is brutal. Of course you don't want Glassers for friends. And they all just left her there, bleeding? How is she?

tattiehat · 12/10/2017 19:39

I honestly wouldn’t say they were a rough bunch! We’ve all met before, with the kids and girls nights and had lovely times, it seems this girl just lost the plot! It was absolutely awful seeing my friend covered in blood and struggling with anxiety after it but the others obviously think that assaulting someone who is meant to be a friend is acceptable

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MyKingdomForBrie · 12/10/2017 19:41

Are the others actually insane?! I assume you have told them how you feel about them supporting the aggressor?

Tilapia · 12/10/2017 19:41

I would feel the same way as you OP.

gamerwidow · 12/10/2017 19:43

I couldn’t be around someone who has behaved like that. Your poor friend.

tattiehat · 12/10/2017 19:46

My friend messaged me today, she was so upset, she still has to go to court over it

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Papafran · 12/10/2017 19:47

I honestly wouldn’t say they were a rough bunch!

But you're talking about someone who glassed someone else. In the face. And the others just carry on being her friend as if that is normal. Whether you class that as rough or not, I certainly would have nothing more to do with them. The word feral springs to mind.

Opheliasgoldenwine · 12/10/2017 20:07

What??! YANBU

tattiehat · 12/10/2017 20:07

Yep papafran, you’re right, feral sounds about right.
I’ve messaged my friend to support her and tell her to forget them.
She, like me, is really struggling to understand how they think that behaviour is acceptable!

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Cupoteap · 12/10/2017 20:12

Well let's hope they don't upset her on a night out!

emmyrose2000 · 13/10/2017 12:58

Run from these unstable people and don't look back!

Keep in touch with the glassed victim, but the rest are all bad news. What the hell kind of example are they setting their children?!

Did you get the story as to what led to the glassing?

CoughLaughFart · 13/10/2017 13:10

Years back some so-called friends of my parents stole a great deal of money from them. Others in their friendship group said they were disgusted, horrified etc., but ultimately 'they're still our friends and it wasn't us they did it to'. When my parents refused to accept this, they were the ones dropped. Some people basically have no spine and would rather accept the shittiest of behaviour than speak up.

keepcalmandfuckon · 13/10/2017 15:13

God your poor friend. That is horrific. I wouldn’t have anything to do with them and I’d make it clear too that I think their actions are unconscionable.

tattiehat · 13/10/2017 16:19

Thanks for all the replies people.

Both my friend & I have unfriended the others on Facebook, one of them has messaged my friend this morning asking why she has unfriended her, I really can’t believe for one second she doesn’t know, I can only think that she wants my friend to reply so she can try to justify her actions. My friend has not replied and does not intend to.

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tattiehat · 13/10/2017 16:22

The glassing was because my friend was apparently not pulling her weight in buying drinks, I had bought a bottle of prosecco for us to share, there was absolutely no issue, I think there’s always been a bit of jealousy.

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tinypop4 · 13/10/2017 16:26

That is fucking feral. Over not buying drinks? Wtaf. You must never see these people again.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 13/10/2017 17:31

Lesson learned-don’t spend so long in the shutter next time.

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