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Booie09 Thu 12-Oct-17 05:28:58

Was thinking of joining the PTA at my child's school but there seems to of been a shuffle around and a load of the mafia mums have joined and given themselves made up titles like
Chair (same nice lady)
Vice chair (mafia mum)
Vice vice chair (mafia mum)
Marketing (mafia mum)
Book keeper (mafia mum)
Two lovely ladies (not mafia mums)
And about another 8 mafia mums (mafia mums are all friends) do I join or keep out of it and just help out on occasion?

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 12-Oct-17 05:33:37

I'd keep out of it. It all seems like a big clique

shouldwestayorshouldwego Thu 12-Oct-17 05:48:20

You should be able to go to the meetings but not officially join the committee. Why not go along say you can't commit at the moment to be vice vice vice chair because you/ dp/ etc might have a big project/ moving/ work etc but you want to be more involved while you can. You might find that the mafia aren't as bad as they seem when you know them and you are on their side. Alternatively they might be more bonkers than you thought and that project or another one desperately needs your attention!

DonkeyOaty Thu 12-Oct-17 07:29:29

Those aren't made up position titles. There will have been an AGM to elect.

You can ask to be co opted into the committee. It is valuable work (though hard at times) Give it a whirl.

ychafi Thu 12-Oct-17 07:50:40

The three non-mafia ladies sound like they would really value your support. Go along to a meeting to see what it’s like.

saoirse31 Thu 12-Oct-17 07:51:59

Presumably there was an AGM, and they were elected , from the no doubt small numbers who attended.

If you're going to join a committee, just like paid work, you're going to have to work with people you don't like.

Given the silly insults in your post, I'm not sure you can do that.

MrsOverTheRoad Thu 12-Oct-17 07:52:30

Why are they "mafia" Mums though?

arethereanyleftatall Thu 12-Oct-17 07:53:25

It's for the children, and the more helpers, the better it is for the children.

MarklahMarklah Thu 12-Oct-17 07:55:50

Our PTA has a chair, vice chair and bookkeeper. Chair role is shared between two, and one of those does marketing.

arethereanyleftatall Thu 12-Oct-17 07:56:09

I must admit, whenever posters try to insult people who are doing a nice thing (i.e. Giving up their time to help others), it isn't a good look.

Witsender Thu 12-Oct-17 07:58:43

Given you give the rest of the volunteers the moniker of 'mafia' I'm not sure why you would want to? You clearly don't like them.

And those titles sound pretty standard to me?

PoppyPopcorn Thu 12-Oct-17 07:59:08

Mafia mums, sneering and "made up titles". Right.

Hate the sneering and nastiness towards volunteers.

SangriaInTheSun Thu 12-Oct-17 08:01:47

Oh another Pta bashing post. hmm

I'm so very glad I give up my time to help raise funds for the school when we appear to be so hated.

Don't join, I doubt you will be missed. And incidentally, they all have perfectly standard titles for a committe.

PoundsShillingsPence Thu 12-Oct-17 08:17:42

Made up titles? Don't you realise they have to have an AGM an elect the commitee??
Why don't you help rather than critisise? It's a thankless job!! There is a small PTA at my dc school,with only a few people who are willing to do the shopping / cleaning / come early to set up etc
The last event we had the only people to set up, do anything and clear up afterwards were me and a teacher!! I suppose you would class me as a mafia mum too but it's easy to critisice from a comfy chair while others are doing the work that will benefit your children.

scurryfunge Thu 12-Oct-17 08:20:44

What is a Mafia mum? Have you found a horse's head in your bed?

InDubiousBattle Thu 12-Oct-17 08:23:37

Everything Pounds just wrote.

greendale17 Thu 12-Oct-17 08:25:19

OP you don’t sound like the type of person that should join the PTA.

SlatternIsTrying Thu 12-Oct-17 08:36:58

Thank you Pounds for summing up the thankless task that is PTA.

I am an 'office holder' on the school PTA. I was elected. I give up time to help all the children in the school. My own children derive no perks or whatever else people think the PTA kids get.

Yet people still treat PTA as an easy target for sly digs. It's a wonder why anyone ever bothers trying to help.

Booie09 Thu 12-Oct-17 08:41:05

They were all newly elected yet they didn't turn up for a recent school disco! Because it was organised by the nice chair! Your all right will stay clear! And I did volunteer at the events.

PoppyPopcorn Thu 12-Oct-17 08:44:31

FFS, that's the whole point of a COMMITTEE - sharing responsibility. We do this at our PTA, every event has a separate lead person who takes charge. It shares the load and means that the rest of us don't have to turn up for every sodding event with ZERO thanks from the other parents who are too busy SNEERING in the corner about "mafia mums".

QueenOfTheAndals Thu 12-Oct-17 09:04:07

I have to say vice vice chair does sound a bit made up...

ElizabethShaw Thu 12-Oct-17 09:06:49

What's a mafia mum? Women who are friends?

TheSnowFairy Thu 12-Oct-17 09:07:58

I work in a school. I bloody love our PTA - funding things the budget won't touch.

Op, leave your attitude at the door and go and volunteer. It benefits your child/ren.

2014newme Thu 12-Oct-17 09:09:55

What's a mafia mum? Are you in sicily?

ElizabethShaw Thu 12-Oct-17 09:11:04

I assume vice chair & "vice" vice chair just means the role is split between two people - quite normal. Just means less work/responsibility per person.

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