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serendipia1907 Wed 11-Oct-17 17:54:47

Question. I have quite a delicate situation so not really AIBU but WWYD.

I started working for a company (a bank) last year in November when I lived in my home city. It was amazing, was going to work happy, had a fabulous team & long story short I enjoyed being there doing what I did.

Then I met someone (highlight of my life now, everything else is crap), and I decided to move where he's from (50 km away, different city), so I tried to find a way to get a transfer in the same bank. Lucky me (or so I thought), I found this position which is a bit higher and managed to move here.

My first day was two weeks ago on Monday. Since then I come home shattered, yelled at or even worse ignored when asking questions/help. I'll try to be short. We're not supposed to do field work, but they require us to do. Which is fine. Except I went every single day first and second week, and every single day this week, whilst everyone else rotated and their turn came 2 times a week tops.

I did this everyday for 5-6 hours, outside in rain & cold, ran back to work to catch up and just worked my ass off as hard as I could. Which is fine. But every single day I got yelled at I didn't do enough, Move quicker (trust me I didn't even have a lunch break at all! I didn't eat in 9 hours), I got ignored when asked for help and they all spoke to me like I am shit just giving orders around. The bosses are mean and inhumane, and I feel lost.

So, regarding the fact there are no jobs atm, I have no chance to get a different job, how do I adapt? I feel like telling them to stop talking to me like that and be nicer but I know this would make it all worse. What do I do to make them like me and make my life more bearable?

I hope this made sense and I can get some useful advice for people who went through similar stuff.

Thanks, lovely people.

serendipia1907 Wed 11-Oct-17 18:16:48


Tapandgo Wed 11-Oct-17 18:18:01

You must have a Line Manager to discuss the issues with - get a meeting asap.
You do need to state clearly that you won't accept being spoken to disrespectfully - or to be shouted at. You need to get some lines in the sand drawn - or it will get worse.

2ndTimeMother Wed 11-Oct-17 18:39:02

I agree you need to arrange a meeting with your line manager or if your not comfortable with this do they have a HR department you could contact?

Whiskeywithwater Wed 11-Oct-17 18:42:20

If it's a bank, then the FCA have a massive Conduct & Culture programme running at the moment. That includes how employees are treated. You're bank must be FCA registered and are required to have a Whistleblower facility. Blow it ...

HighFiveMummy Wed 11-Oct-17 18:45:28

I don't understand sorry. Field work? For a bank?

serendipia1907 Wed 11-Oct-17 19:02:18

Thanks everyone!

@HighFiveMummy I can't give any specific details as I'm afraid it will out me!

serendipia1907 Wed 11-Oct-17 19:05:32

My line manager is one of the 2 bosses who shout.....

I so freaking hate direct conflict and I freaking avoid it. Probably that's why they make me do all this stuff.

Also I have noticed all the other staff speak to her like she's divinity. I can't do this- I am a fair & professional individual, I except a nice collaboration, not to worship my boss nor make jokes with them....

Honestly I can't sleep at night.

I am also a member of a union, do you think that might help or make my life hell?

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