And what do you expect to be there for them?
It's become increasingly obvious to me that my ex believes contact is some kind of super fun sleepover/playdate as a opposed to his share of parenting and that DD will arrive with everything she needs without him having to provide for her.
I warned him a few months ago that she's growing up now (she's eleven) and was starting to experiment with hair/make-up and will soon be needing certain things at his house (blow dryer, styling brushes, flat irons, body spray, tampons etc) as opposed to just using his comb and leaving her naturally curly hair frizzy.
He ignored this.
Last week, on the morning he has her, she turned up on my doorstep as I was leaving the house for college, sobbing about being bullied because her hair wouldn't go right. I had to choose between dealing with ensuing tantrum or allowing her in to flat iron her hair. I went with letting her in. It seemed the quickest option.
I let ex know I have commitments and wouldn't be available to do that for her every week and again, sent him a list of the things she needs to do her hair as she likes.
This morning, she turned up slightly earlier, with the expectation of being able to do her hair because, "dad said you forgot to pack my hair stuff so I have come home to get ready."
I sent him links to flat irons and the styling spray we use.
His reply was that, as the person she lives with, it is my responsibility to make sure he has everything he needs to get her to school enabling himself to get to work on time. This is what he pays the bare minimum maintenance for.
He's being a twat isn't he?
Would it be unreasonable to text him early next week, letting him know I've left for college and will not be home for dd?
I don't have spare hair straighteners. At home she uses mine. She does her hair while I make her lunch and then I do mine while she gets dressed, we have a nice little routine.
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What do your children take to overnight contact with the non-resident parent?
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Frequency · 11/10/2017 16:21
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