I have a good friend with kids similar ages to mine.
For years I have been using baby-sitters. I have 3 teenagers, well one is now 20, who babysit for us. I know all their parents, know the teenagers well, sensible people, I absolutely trust them to do the right thing if anything went wrong.
I choose to pay someone because I don't like always asking a friend, everyone has busy lives, it's just easier this way. So I've sort of decided now that I don't want to do any evening babysitting for friends either any more. I just can't be bothered. I like my own house and getting to bed early. I don't bother other people with looking after mine so I"m out of the babysitting circle faffing about.
My friend sometimes asks me to babysit. I usually say yes if I can because she's a friend. But last time she asked me I said no, but I can give you the number of my babysitter, I'm sure she will happily do it.
She said no, she would never leave her children with anyone other than a competent adult, she doesn't know how I can possibly relax when my children are with a babysitter. Now one girl who sits for me is 20 and in her final year of a law degree so I reckon she's pretty competent, she's certainly dealt with everything my kids have thrown at her.
So my friend is now offering to pay to have the incompetent babysitter look after my children so I can go round and look after hers. I have said no, sorry. But again, here is the number of the babysitter if you want it.
But this is ridiculous, right? She can sort out her own babysitting problems? I've even offered her a solution.
I suspect she's going to really take the huff if I don't do it for her, so at least I won't have to worry about it again!
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teaandakitkat · 11/10/2017 11:26
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