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thedinosaur Wed 11-Oct-17 10:44:15

I had a dream last night that I discovered DP has used prostitutes.
It happened on 3 occasions before I found out and questioned him about it and he said it's like driving past a McDonald's and not being able to help yourself even though you want to eat well angry
He also implied he wasn't able to get from me what he got from them, which was a lie once I found out what he actually paid for!

I woke up this morning in a bit of a mood over it, told DP about it and first thing he said was "what did they look like?" envy <<< NOT envy
I wanted to kick him out of bed.

It doesn't help that I'm nearly 8months pregnant and feeling particularly crap about myself.

Why do I dream about things like that?!?!

(Lighthearted btw)

MrsHathaway Wed 11-Oct-17 10:48:52

Vivid dreams are a blessing and a curse grin

At 8m pg it's almost impossible to be U about almost anything. I remember how it feels, but I bet you actually look bloody glorious.

thedinosaur Wed 11-Oct-17 11:02:48

I'm actually annoyed about the fact that he asked what they looked like!
Regardless of what he thinks that is NOT funny!

I'm still sat here like envyenvyenvyenvy

EdmundCleverClogs Wed 11-Oct-17 11:08:02

I had a very similar dream last time I was pregnant. I woke up about 3am absolutely fuming, and actually kicked him out of bed saying his snoring had woken me up blush.

I did (eventually, weeks later) sheepishly tell him the truth. He found it funny, thankfully! I hate vivid pregnancy dreams, they're even worse this time around, though currently my partner is dream-behaving himself.

ladylambkin Wed 11-Oct-17 11:10:55

I once dreamt my exh was a pornstar. I woke up really upset in the morning and told him...his response was "was I good and was I enjoying it" hmm

sahknowme Wed 11-Oct-17 11:14:29

Dream-world DH is a dick. LTB in tomorrow night's dream.

NeedsAsockamnesty Wed 11-Oct-17 11:19:20

I once dreamed my late husband sold the baby (who came out as a hybrid monster) on eBay

It was not fun and the poor bloke didn’t even know how to turn on a computer

TwitterQueen1 Wed 11-Oct-17 11:26:47

Actually that's a reasonable question IMHO. Clearly he has no clue about prostitution so. You should be reassured!

ReanimatedSGB Wed 11-Oct-17 11:29:32

An exboyfriend of mine was once thoroughly arsey with me all morning. When I asked what the matter was I got all this 'You KNOW what you did, stop pretending you don't.' So I yelled at him, and then it dawned on him that he had in fact dreamt something weird, and we both had a bit of a laugh about it.

Mind you, there was another occasion (same bloke: poor chap) where I was the one with the bad dream - I dreamt I was fleeing zombies and had run into a room and slammed the door. In my sleep I swung an arm back and smacked him in the willy...

ASDismynormality Wed 11-Oct-17 11:29:45

A few months ago I was cross with my husband as I dreamt he had an affair with my friends (adult) son. I was perfectly aware it was irrational and DH just found it funny!

Caenea Wed 11-Oct-17 11:30:04

I had a very racy dream about Jeremy Clarkson (boak) when I was at this stage.

DP woke up for work, and I must have also half-woken, because apparently I had a massive go at him for not being Jeremy Clarkson and looked (apparently) genuinely furious.

When he messaged me later to ask if I had calmed down I had no idea what he was on about.

moonlight1705 Wed 11-Oct-17 11:31:44

I once dreamed that my DH and my Dsis were having an affair - I woke up crying and I told him what I had dreamed.

His answer was 'Oh, don't worry your sister would drive me crazy!' sad

Flowerfae Wed 11-Oct-17 11:31:52

I got annoyed at something DH had done in one of my dreams, it wasn't anything to do with prostitutes or anything like that, it was just something annoying that I'd totally envisage him doing, it pee'd me right off and it was like it was a premonition, I was just waiting for him to do it in real life. :D

AnUtterIdiot Wed 11-Oct-17 11:32:43

Ah, the pregnancy dreams. I went through a phase of those a few weeks ago. I dreamed I put the baby down on a hill and it rolled all the way down and fell off the edge. I just stood there and watched like a lemon. Woke my husband up to bend his ear at length about what a dreadful mother I was going to be...

Foreveryseason Wed 11-Oct-17 11:34:22

Dh became worried when in every vivid dream I had he always seemed to be the bad guy. He was a murderer in at least one. He's actually really lovely regardless what my unconscious self thinks grin

AnUtterIdiot Wed 11-Oct-17 11:34:39

Oh and I had another dream where I was trying to give a party and people kept turning up with a baby and saying "Utter, did you know you left the baby in the washing machine?" and "Utter, you haven't fed the baby for two days".

I sense that I have parenting confidence issues.

HughLauriesStubble Wed 11-Oct-17 11:35:44

"what did they look like?"

Bahahahaha brave man!! grin Pregnancy dreams are definitely a bit wtf. I kept dreaming dh was cheating on me or leaving me. Poor bloke.

Whenever I have one of those dreams now, I have to head it off by telling dh immediately on waking so that if I'm narky wit him through the day, he can remind me that it's just because of a dream.

guilty100 Wed 11-Oct-17 11:42:50

Hahaha! I know exactly what you mean! I once had a dream that my DH had been an absolute bastard to me, and I woke up in a really bad mood!

I also had sleep paralysis once. I "woke up" and saw a demon at the end of my bed, emitting an evil that was absolutely palpable. It was honestly the most terrified I have ever been - absolute and pure terror. And I am not impressionable, and nor do I believe in ghosts, demons or anything like that. But it was a full 2 days before the feeling of anxiety went away fully, even though I knew exactly what had happened to me at a rational level.

I think emotional states can stay with us, even when they aren't real. I sometimes find I can use this to my advantage - pretending I feel a bit happier than I do when I am down tends to be genuinely helpful.

BlueSapp Wed 11-Oct-17 11:43:57

Ahh OP I'm sure he was trying to be funny. Your just feeling a little insecure at the minute, I'm sure if you explain that he needs to be nice not funny, he'll get it. Good luck with the baby. flowers

RhiannonOHara Wed 11-Oct-17 11:44:38

I've never been pregnant, so I can't add anything there, but there is that very awkward thing when you have a sex dream about a colleague and then can't look them in the eye when you bump into them in the work kitchen/lift etc.

CiderwithBuda Wed 11-Oct-17 11:50:37

I've had a few dreams about DH doing the dirty on me. And I can't even blame pregnancy! I do tell him. He thinks I'm weird anyway because apparently he never dreams!

I did have a horrible one when I was PG and in it I was murdered. The dream sequence then repeated and I knew what was going to happen and kept trying to change it but I got close to the end before I woke up. I assume it was something to do with th old me and my old life and new me as a mother and my new life.

thedinosaur Wed 11-Oct-17 12:12:39

Glad I'm not the only one!

It's been hours and I'm still a bit huffy. Just remembered In the dream he also tried to make me better in bed by discussing kinky outfits intended for me with my mother confused which is even stranger as he hates my mother.

And everyone was trying to get me to forgive him angry

MrGrumpy01 Wed 11-Oct-17 12:19:54

I remember getting really cross with Dh for having an affair in a dream. To give him his due rl Dh apologized for what he did in my dream.

pallisers Wed 11-Oct-17 12:21:38

"what did they look like?"

That's really funny.

CaoNiMartacus Wed 11-Oct-17 12:25:15

I once had a sex dream about my old university supervisor. In the dream, I had tried to dissuade him from sleeping with me, as he had a wife and child. He went ahead. The next time I saw him in real life, I was proper angry with his dream-self for being so immoral!

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