So I’m 38. Recently became a mature student to study Accounting. I’m a lone parent after my ex had an affair 2 years ago and been treating our girls like shit and me. Loads have been happening with him and his family that I always want to post about but I always only read other threads on Mumsnet instead. I posted about some of it before when my ex left my girls on my doorstep an drove off knowing I wasn’t at home and the times I’ve fallen apart.
Long story short but last 2 years have been hell. I started a job over 18 months ago doing nothing but admin but not specific tasks and not ever learning anything knew. Wages were minimum but I could only afford to work 16 hours in the end due to childcare and the fact that once my ex heard he might have to cover some of the childcare he stopped seeing them. He didn’t pay maintenance for over a year on a 60k salary. We don’t live in the south so that money goes far. Anyway he now pays but randomly decides every now and then that he doesn’t have enough money to cover certain months and CMS can’t at this point take it direct from him. He refuse to help with childcare to allow me to get a better job or work holidays etc.
I decided to study to be an Accountant to give the girls a better future. Made enquiries to Uni and Student Finance and got accepted quite late and I’m the only mature student in my class of 18 year olds. Small uni. I did receive a CertHE in Computing in 2012 which was supposed to be for a Foundation Degree in Computing but due to issues at college and my personal issues some modules which was handed in wasn’t marked and I was few modules short to graduate.
Tax credits and housing benefits has all been suspended since August pending Student Finance Assessment. Hopefully this will be completed by Friday/Monday. However someone at Student Finance told me yesterday that I won’t get the first year Tuition fees paid. They said that if I went on to do an undergraduate in Computing I would have had it all funded but because it’s Accounting I can’t get it funded. Possibly 2nd year as well unless I can send them a letter with the circumstances.
I am now already liable for this terms fees and if I have to leave Uni now my life will go back to the shitty way it’s been. I am not from the UK so haven’t got a single person to ask for assistance. But this studies was my break away from him and his family. Getting independent from them as I’ve had to repeatedly deal with them causing so much upset time and again. I have struggled to even get an interview before and even tried applying for apprenticeships.
I have a meeting with Uni in an hour to decide my fate. They told me on the phone I can use my maintenance loan to pay for the fees but then I don’t have money to live on. I am absolutely devastated that all this excitement and work I’ve put in already will be it. I was so proud to explain to my almost 10 year old what I’ll be doing. I took both of our girls to Uni so that they can understand. I just genuinely don’t know what I’ll do financially to better our lives after this.
Please please tell me what I can do. Or AIBU for being so very upset and devastated. I just can’t stop crying.
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EffieFuckingFairy · 11/10/2017 10:42
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