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To think it's hilarious that friends who turned their backs when I was suffering from severe anxiety are posting mental health day awareness posts on Facebook!

(129 Posts)
Daisym0use Tue 10-Oct-17 19:33:15

Just that really. So easy to look good on fb but actually be a sh*t friend!

FakePlasticTeaLeaves Tue 10-Oct-17 19:34:58

100% agree. Same thing happening to me.

TheQueenOfWands Tue 10-Oct-17 19:35:04

Yup.

Another one here who lost mates when the depression hit.

Their loss. Muppets.

DewDropsonKittens Tue 10-Oct-17 19:35:13

yanbu.. People are wankers.

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 10-Oct-17 19:35:15

Maybe they feel bad about that. You never know...

GeekLove Tue 10-Oct-17 19:36:01

It's known as virtue signalling. It's easy to talk the talk but it's the actions that count.

Ginorchoc Tue 10-Oct-17 19:38:57

Agree!

Liadain Tue 10-Oct-17 19:41:21

Depends on what was happening with you exactly I think. MH issues is not a reason for someone to give and give until they have nothing left themselves. Your first priority should always be to yourself.

Mind you, I'm not disagreeing with you op - I imagine in the vast majority of cases people are just thoughtless asshats. But it's something I always keep in mind.

Creampastry Tue 10-Oct-17 19:51:34

Tossers..... but try not to let it hurt you too much. Hope things get better for you.

Bubblebubblepop Tue 10-Oct-17 19:52:45

Well... you don't think it's hilarious really do you?
I'm sorry they couldn't be there for you. Often people aren't capable of the support they like to think they are.

brasty Tue 10-Oct-17 20:00:45

Sadly I think this is not uncommon

KarriPotter Tue 10-Oct-17 20:01:11

God yes, I’ve got the most horrific bully on my fb sharing anti bullying ‘it’s never ok’ posts. It’s taking all my might not to comment with a few choice words.
But then I’d be the bad guy and she’d be the victim. So it just goes on.

I’m sorry you’ve suffered Op, I’ve got shit friends all over the place right now. It’s not nice to feel alone flowers

Goldenbear Tue 10-Oct-17 20:01:47

Most likely it is what you say it is but sometimes people would not reveal in a million years their own mental health issues and cannot give you the support you expected at the time.

BlackPepperCrab Tue 10-Oct-17 20:03:39

It's not just mental health. This sort of virtue signalling happens all the time with all sorts of events across all public platforms.

JonSnowsWife Tue 10-Oct-17 20:04:19

YNBU. Well you are a bit saying it's hilarious. I think it's saddening and reeks of pontification. But no you're not.

I also lost friends when I suffered a MH crisis. Thankfully I have the most amazing best friends who were there for me every step or the way.

The others can jog on with their fakery.

You don't need people like that in your life OP. flowers

FlossNightingale Tue 10-Oct-17 20:05:20

One of the most frustrating modern trends is this inference fhat mental illness can be prevented and indeed cured by 'awareness' and kindness. It is utter horseshit and I wish it would stop.

BlackPepperCrab Tue 10-Oct-17 20:06:59

Well you are a bit saying it's hilarious

Think the OP was being sarcastic and not using the word in the literal sense.

brasty Tue 10-Oct-17 20:07:01

Actually that is a fair point that sometimes people have their own issues to deal with.

My neighbour who has always been a funny bugger, now refuses to talk to me. His wife died and I talked to him afterwards. A week later I avoided him in the street. A relative had just been murdered the day before and I was not up to talking to anyone. I am sure he thinks I avoided him purely because he was bereaved.

SandunesAndRainclouds Tue 10-Oct-17 20:07:52

I get the rage when I see people sharing the Learning Disability "awareness" posts but actively ignore / avoid children with additional needs.

mintich Tue 10-Oct-17 20:09:16

Don't I know it!!!

TabbyMumz Tue 10-Oct-17 20:12:12

Do you actually ask them for help when you were suffering from anxiety? Perhaps they either weren't aware of it or thought you were coping, or didn't want to intrude. Not every one feels comfortable being the person who would reach out and help. Perhaps whilst you had anxiety you treated them really badly and they didn't know it was down to mental health. Not everyone has the tools or skill to help someone with mental health.

KarriPotter Tue 10-Oct-17 20:14:19

Floss, to some small degree it can be eased by awareness. The less people spouting ‘it’s all in your head’ and ‘you just need a good night out’ the better.
Educating them is the way forward.

TabbyMumz Tue 10-Oct-17 20:14:51

Sandunes...surely it's ok to have sympathy towards a condition, but not want to or know how to help personally?

JonSnowsWife Tue 10-Oct-17 20:18:44

BlackPepperCrab yes you're right - apologies I didn't pick up on the sarcasm.

Sorry OP. flowers

FlossNightingale Tue 10-Oct-17 20:20:34

Possibly Karri but it does suggest that all is needed is a good night out / a hug / a friend. Yes, depression and anxiety symptoms can be eased in this way but when someone has full blown delusions, voices in their head, personality disorders - you can't!

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