25 yrs marriage.kids of all ages,some with sn.not worked in 20 yrs.rediculous degree 25 yrs ago ...no skills,nothing I'm good at. Own half a house...if I make him sell and give me half ,they loose their home,some are doing exams this yr,exams next yr for others ..I couldn't work and look after the ones with sn.so the only way is to leave the kids with him and walk away with nothing....he says if I do that he will have to pack his job in to care for kids with sn,who are not in full time school.then the bills don't get paid...we could separate and take 2 kids each.,split the family up...could I really do that? Is that fair?half a house and 2 kids I could probably manage to support alone ...I've no family,nothing ,just my kids.he has a big family..he dosnt want this,he's happy as things are,kids are happy.....I feel trapped,like a bird in a cage..he's not a bad man,he's a good kind father..he's got a reason why we can't split up for every idea I come up with....I suppose I'm scared too.ive never lived alone.ive no savings,no money of my own.and I couldn't live here,would have to move somewhere cheaper..what right have I got to move them away from their friends ,when they've been here their whole life,and they clearly don't want to go..what right have I got to disrupt everyone's life because I'm not happy...I mean who the fuck am I ,the queen?..I'm one person out of 6. And I'm as miserable as sin.
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AIBU,to ruin everyone's life ,when I'm the only one not happy?
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Flyawaybirdie · 10/10/2017 18:55
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