DH refusing to hold my hand

[remaincalm]

DH refuses to hold my hand when we are walking together. He says that it’s because his arms are longer than mine and it’s too uncomfortable to walk holding his hand up whilst holding mine. We are both pretty average height so I don’t think that hand holding should be a problem. AIBU to be annoyed that he will never hold my hand?

[Namechangetempissue]

YABU. I hate holding hands and find in uncomfortable and annoying too. I adore my DH, I just don't feel the need to walk along attached to each other!

[Elphame]

Yes me too. Our pace doesn't match and I find it really uncomfortable.

[karalime]

Yabu I find handholding really uncomfortable unless you have the same length arms, one of you has to stoop.

Much easier to link arms and then hold hands in one of your pockets when it's cold.

[trytobebestdad]

ill do it sometime but find it weird at other times, my wife often moans at me for not doing enough PDA.
just not my thing though, not a fan when other people do it
ps don't do it in dubai...

[pictish]

Yabu if only because I hate holding hands. It's cumbersome and restrictive and often sweaty. Not my thing at all. Sorry.

[lalalalyra]

I never hold hands with my DH as it's uncomfortable. There's over a foot and a half height difference between us.

It's also the reason I don't insist my kids hold hands.

Walk around with your hand at the angle he'd have to have his at for 30 mins and see if you still think he's being unreasonable.

[remaincalm]

Looks like IABU (hangs her head in shame) oh dear 🤦🏻‍♀️

[MrsMerryFestive]

We only hold hands if having a nice countryside stroll sans kids.

If I'm actually on my way to somewhere and have shit to be getting on with then hand holding is definitely not on.

[deepestdarkestperu]

We’re the opposite! I hate it and DP loves it. I find I get sweaty palms and I don’t like being attached to someone when I’m walking along!

[pictish]

It is quite uncomfortable to have to hold your hand (and therefore arm) up in order to hold someone else's. Hold hands on the sofa instead. x

[Ilovechocolate111]

I miss holding my husband hand. I only seem to push a pram these days lol very rare we hold each others hand my husband 6ft 1 and I'm 5 ft 5 and don't find in uncomfortable at all. So I don't think your being unreasonable 😀

[Tatiana1986]

Never in 13 years have me and my husband held hands whilst walking because he's not into it. I used to like it before I met him but now it would just feel weird to do so. And anyway, we're not six years old

[WhatToDoAboutThis2017]

YANBU. I love holding hands with DH and would be rather upset if he didn't want to.

[Flyinggeese]

Me and my partner often (for v short periods of time) hold hands while walking but it's one of those things that now I think about it has gone weird. It's a bit of an odd thing to do! We sometime also try to hold hands while lying in bed but then remember we're mismatched arm length wise and stop because it doesn't work.

[Slimthistime]

I think YABU
it can be quite odd and uncomfortable

to the poster who said "don't do it in Dubai" - there's a ruddy great tourism ad for Dubai across the top of this page. I am the sort of person who would never go and doesn't travel much so I am puzzled to say the least!

[fullofhope03]

Oh OP! I don't think YBU - Think it's sweet and romantic and not uncomfortable at all x

[ParanoidBeryl]

I have a chronic shoulder pain issue and I can't hold hands with DH. It used to be ok, but he would do this awful shaking my hand off vigorously if it was in public that was really painful on my shoulder. I'll never risk that pain again, so don't hold hands.

I adore holding hands with DS though. It is totally natural, his hands are so warm, and it fills my heart with joy.

[OldPony]

I honestly couldn't be with someone if they didn't want to hold hands.

This is probably why I'm still single though!

[KrytensNanobots]

Aw, I think it's nice to hold hands when out, so I get where you're coming from.
Me and DH still sometimes do and we've been together approx 20 years.
Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't.
We've learnt not to when out on a walk with the dc's though as they find it hilarious to shout "BEEP BEEP" and come crashing through the hand holding in fits of giggles.

[Jux]

Could you put your hand through his elbow? As it were.

[backintown]

I live in a Uni town & all the students have decended in the last couple of weeks - I noticed as I was rushing about today just how many hold hands can't get past the blighters made me nostalgic for youth & young love (and the sweaty palm, slightly not in sync, achy arm awkwardness of it)! TBH though the only other time you see it is with unsteady old people or the sort of middle aged couples who wear matching fleeces! Also in reality it is sweaty and uncomfortable & annoying after 30 seconds of doing it so YABU ;)

[PossiblyPFB]

YANBU I love holding hands with my husband!

[fruitlovingmonkey]

Are you a dinosaur? If so, yabu.

[augustusglupe]

This made me laugh, I’ve just shown DH, because he’s always grabbing my hand and I always pull my hand away. I find it uncomfortable, like I’m being led along and controlled. I’m not, but that’s how I feel. I’ve started to hold my handbag with both hands so he can’t grab my hand!!
He looks at other couples and says ‘well they’re holding hands’ and I go
‘Christ we’ve been married 30 years we’re hardly loves young dream’ I love him to death but have never got the hand holding thing.
I’m just not very touchy feely anyway. Me and DD are quite similar and we always do the same awkward hug that Edina and Saffy do in Ab Fab

[Ontheboardwalk]

If he's your DH then surely you knew this about him before you got married? How long have you been married?

People are usually hand holders or not from the very start