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ComingUpTrumps Sun 08-Oct-17 22:48:58

Just watched Rain Man - AIBU to have found it a bit upsetting? Found it quite difficult and uncomfortable to watch at times.

Slartybartfast Sun 08-Oct-17 22:50:49

How so

ComingUpTrumps Sun 08-Oct-17 22:55:41

I just found it really sad and uncomfortable. Maybe it was just because I was feeling a bit low. It's not exactly a feel-good film anyway - it's quite upsetting in places.

SharkiraSharkira Sun 08-Oct-17 23:03:25

Yanbu op.

I have an autistic ds and it tugged my heartstrings sad

I also absolutely HATED The Accountant but that's another thread..

DixieNormas Sun 08-Oct-17 23:06:35

Dp put the accountant on the other day and I couldn't watch it

arethereanyleftatall Sun 08-Oct-17 23:37:56

Why did you not like the accountant?

SharkiraSharkira Mon 09-Oct-17 14:28:00

I just felt like the message was basically 'if your child is autistic, just ignore the autism and refuse to give in to it, send them to martial arts training and eventually they will grow out of it and become successful and 'normal' but for a few OCD traits'.

I have trouble expressing exactly why I hate it so much, I just do. I think because my ds is severely affected to the point of being doubly incontinent and likely needing full time care for the rest of his life so the inference, even unintentional, that if I treated him that same as everyone else and didn't pander to his autism then he would magically grow out of it extremely offensive and upsetting not to mention massively unrealistic.

Pagwatch Mon 09-Oct-17 14:49:02

I think it's a great film and the fact that it's upsetting is because in so many parts it's real.
I hated the decade of 'oh like rain man! ' that followed where so many people assumed that that was how autism manifests itself every time.
I think Tom Cruise should have got the oscar rather than Dustin even though I love Dustin
His recognition that he loved his brother but could not make him happy was perfect

DixieNormas Mon 09-Oct-17 15:17:40

@SharkiraSharkira I feel the same as you

TinklyLittleLaugh Mon 09-Oct-17 15:22:19

Tom Cruise is such a good actor, although such a screw up as a human being.

Pagwatch Mon 09-Oct-17 15:39:08

Yep.

Boulshired Mon 09-Oct-17 15:42:44

The real rain mans biography - Kim Peek - is excellent and more impressive for me than the film. Rain man is a curse, no my son does not have a amazing ability but I have found less comments are made as more autism awareness increases.

usernameinfinito Mon 09-Oct-17 15:46:10

Thanks to that film a lot of people think everyone with ASD has to have a 'gift'.

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x2boys Mon 09-Oct-17 16:03:17

They do user i have been asked what ds2 gift is on a childrens ward by childrens nurses people who really should know better !Sharkira my son is also severly affected hes non verbal not toilet trained (hes seven ) ,off point but i keep hearing autism isnt a disability just a different ability this winds me up if not being able to speak isnt a disability i dont know what ishmm.

DixieNormas Mon 09-Oct-17 16:40:30

Yep the what's his special gift, well he has been known to go without sleep for well over 36 hours .

Floellabumbags Mon 09-Oct-17 16:45:38

I have been asked what ds2 gift is on a childrens ward by childrens nurses

The fuck? That's just awful flowers

fleshmarketclose Mon 09-Oct-17 16:47:31

I just reply when asked what my two's special gift is "They can fly" grin which seems to let them know that they've asked a stupid question and I'm not impressed.

poppl Mon 09-Oct-17 16:55:12

Oh god don’t watch There’s Something About Mary then.

Fuck I hated that film.

27Feb Mon 09-Oct-17 16:55:34

SharkiraSharkira - see, I loved the Accountant because my little brother is autistic (high functioning) and loved it so much - someone with his diagnosis (ish) kicking ass and being the cool hero. It just thrilled him to bits and I loved it for that.

Bumdishcloths Mon 09-Oct-17 17:15:53

If you view them as simply what they are - films - then they are both exceptionally good. They're not public service broadcasts or documentaries, and artistic license is in both of them in spades.

Slartybartfast Mon 09-Oct-17 19:39:47

What about X & Y, -does that affect you negatively as well?

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