A bit of background. I don't speak to my brother he is a massive bell end and the only one in the family who speaks to him is my da. His daughter 18 is getting married and therefore he wants my dad to help fund it and dad has received more than the bi annual call this year. Dad is thrilled to be involved and is chatting about my family which he normally does not do.
Right so dear brother told him today that my son is a waster and I should make him get a job. I am smothering him etc etc and dad is now worried I should be pushing him more. I am so livid (made worse by the fact I cannot confront him) but I constantly worry if I am not helping son enough so it has struck a nerve.
I work for DWP part time and have explored a few things through work but DS (25)cannot do anything. At all. He has autism but is quite high functioning. He has a personality disorder, extreme anxiety, ichthyosis, very floppy hypermobility and has just had a defibrillator fitted to prevent him having a sudden cardiac arrest and dying. His brother died in 2014 from the same condition. He is struggling with coping with having the device in and the reason for it. His psychiatrist has upped his medication.
He can't work outside, he can't lift heavy objects, he can't cope with strange people, he can't socialise I don''t know what job he is supposed to do and I work 32 hours a week, am training to be a counsellor and am up half the night with him and his 14 year old autistic brother so I am always tired. Maybe I don't push him but into what?. His keyboard skills are great but I have rung companies doing data input, nobody has a job in a quiet room with nobody else in it for him to do! I am feeling 90 % angry but I do have a bit of doubt.AIBU to want to cry or drive down and poke my brother on the nose?
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Am I wrong? - disabled son never going to work
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deblet · 08/10/2017 18:13
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