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... to go on a weekend away even though dp isn't happy about it?

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ferrier Sun 08-Oct-17 13:50:59

Background - it's to do with a hobby I do quite a lot of. Dp has hobbies which also take up some time. Neither of us have done weekends away without each other.
Have dc of secondary age. They largely entertain themselves though usually need ferrying around a bit.
I've been asked to do a long weekend - Friday - Sunday. Wibu to go even though dp is not happy about it?

tippz Sun 08-Oct-17 13:52:09

Yes you would be fine to do it. YANBU.

No man would ever think 'am I being unreasonable by having a hobby weekend with my mates!'

Do it!

Wellysocksbox Sun 08-Oct-17 13:52:28

Why is DP unhappy?

Therealslimshady1 Sun 08-Oct-17 13:53:02

What is the reason for him to be unhappy about it?

Goosegrass Sun 08-Oct-17 13:53:10

Of course you should go.

TanteRose Sun 08-Oct-17 13:53:30

Of course you should go! What's your DH not happy about? confused

BertrandRussell Sun 08-Oct-17 13:53:46


What is he unhappy about?

BeingATwatItsABingThing Sun 08-Oct-17 13:55:22

If you would be happy for him to go, then YANBU. If you wouldn’t then YABU.

FritzDonovan Sun 08-Oct-17 13:55:22

If you would be happy for him to do the same, what's the problem?

pinkyredrose Sun 08-Oct-17 13:56:20

What's his problem exactly?

TheDodgyEnd Sun 08-Oct-17 13:57:16

As pp’s said, why isn’t he happy? And would you be upset if he wanted to do a weekend away? What is the hobby?

Giggorata Sun 08-Oct-17 13:58:26

Go. If you start this sort of nonsense, you'll never be able to do anything unless he is happy about it.

khajiit13 Sun 08-Oct-17 13:59:58

Why is he unhappy about it? Based on your op YANBU

ferrier Sun 08-Oct-17 14:00:24

What he has said:
He has to do all the ferrying rather than share it.
Has to sort meals etc (though I'd be happy to leave them stuff or for them to get takeaway).
Unfair because he doesn't get a weekend away (not because I would stop him).
Not said in so many words but hinted at:
I'm going to have too much fun. Maybe want to do it more often.

TanteRose Sun 08-Oct-17 14:01:39

FFS heaven forbid you have too much fun!

Goosegrass Sun 08-Oct-17 14:02:53

Why shouldn't he sort his own kids meals and drive them about? He's their parent.

pinkyredrose Sun 08-Oct-17 14:03:33

Oh ffs he has to feed his kid and give them a lift? And he can't fucking do that on his own?

Go on this wknd, in fact make it a regular thing and maybe he'll get ovet his incompetence and get on with things.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Sun 08-Oct-17 14:08:21

He is complaining about feeding and ferrying his children for 3 days? Who does it normally?

Auburn2001 Sun 08-Oct-17 14:10:43

Yes go. He sounds a bit jealous.

upsidedown2017 Sun 08-Oct-17 14:12:57

There is absolutely no reason for him to be unhappy. I'm very surprised neither of you have done it before. DH has done several times and would be happy for me to do so too.

IdaDown Sun 08-Oct-17 14:14:44

Unless your hobby is swinging - and you're going without him. Then yes, I could see your DH being upset that you're going alone grin

However, I can see you need a break from the 1950s

DiegoMadonna Sun 08-Oct-17 14:15:46

They're secondary age, not babies and toddlers!

If it really is about "having too much fun and maybe wanting to do it more often", then he needs to have a word with himself.

ZippyCameBack Sun 08-Oct-17 14:23:26

If you don't go because he doesn't want you to, then you might well find yourself with a growing list of things he doesn't want you to do.
If your weekend away doesn't cause financial hardship, just a bit of inconvenience, then I think it would be a huge mistake to let him think that he has a veto.

Roussette Sun 08-Oct-17 14:24:17

Bloody hell.

Good job I'm not married to your DH. My kids are adult now but there has not been a year I've missed in not going away with my friends. He can too if he wants to, he knows that. Why on earth can't you? He sounds insanely jealous and mean. And he's moaning at looking after a couple of teens? Is that just your job then?

innagazing Sun 08-Oct-17 14:25:22

Tell him to behave himself! Ask him how he thinks single fathers cope every other weekend? and look menacingly at your wedding ring as you do so

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