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To really appreciate my DH after all the horror stories here?

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MamaOfTwos Sat 07-Oct-17 17:23:53

Not a TAAT but inspired by all the women who's husbands/partners are selfish arseholes. I was reading several threads this afternoon and told my DH just how much I appreciate him. We share all household and baby responsibilities and he's respectful and thoughtful. I don't want to sound like I'm boasting, but I'm genuinely feeling incredibly lucky to have met such a wonderful man. So this is raising a glass to all the wonderful men out there who are brilliant partners and fathershalo

WorraLiberty Sat 07-Oct-17 17:24:56

YANBU at all.

I feel the same about mine wine

GlitteryFluff Sat 07-Oct-17 17:26:28

Yep me too. He's not perfect but pretty close:wine

RainyApril Sat 07-Oct-17 17:26:51

I think that's a nice post and I know I'm going to sound like a right miserable bag but : I would've said the same about my xh right up until the day I discovered his affair.

It's good that you appreciate your dh. Look after each other. In my head I know such marriages exist, I'm just so sceptical now!

TicketyBoo83 Sat 07-Oct-17 17:27:12

YANBU the other night I gave DH a big cuddle and told him how glad I was that I married such a great guy. He replied “have you been reading mumsnet again?” 😂

CandyMelts Sat 07-Oct-17 17:28:51

It's all everyone deserves really, but I know what you mean smile

Winterbeaches Sat 07-Oct-17 17:29:00

Tickety mine does that too! "What shit are you reading on MN now?"

Witsender Sat 07-Oct-17 17:30:59

Yes indeed, he has his faults as do I but he is a pretty awesome human being.

ShowMePotatoSalad Sat 07-Oct-17 17:31:03

YANBU but at the same time you're not "lucky" that your DH pulls his weight equally with you. That's not a privilege - it's a normal expectation and standard that everyone deserves in a relationship.

Debpool Sat 07-Oct-17 17:32:37

Key to happiness is appriciating what you've got imho.

I'm sat eating chicken dippers with DH before our gaming session. I took a nap earlier as the kids were being mad, just left him to it. I scrubbed his back when he had his sat afternoon bath. It's not 5* luxery with cumberland sauce but it does us.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Sat 07-Oct-17 17:32:47

Ah I feel like that about my DH, he is sometimes grumpy, impossible and irritating, but he's kind, considerate, generous, funny, affectionate, hard working, pulls his weight around the house and actively supports me in my career even though it means spending time away from home and dragging him out at silly o clock to take me to the train station or collect me. He has cancer and is depressed at the moment, and I am devastated because I can't imagine life without him.

He's the antithesis of the arsehole abusive dick I was with before I met DH.

RainyDayBear Sat 07-Oct-17 17:33:03

Definitely. I can relate to a lot of the threads about rubbish partners as I had a crappy ex who was very selfish, I thank my lucky stars we didn't have kids and that I got away from him reading some threads on here! DP does his fair share of childcare and housework, and at the moment I'm pregnant and struggling, so he's doing most of the housework, gets up early at the weekends with DD so I can lie in, sends me for naps or baths when I'm shattered and achey. I frequently tell him how ace he is and how much I appreciate all that he does for our little family!

Alexkate2468 Sat 07-Oct-17 17:34:49

I really appreciate mine too. I read so many awful stories and am really thankful.

gamerchick Sat 07-Oct-17 17:35:12

ANBU the other night I gave DH a big cuddle and told him how glad I was that I married such a great guy. He replied “have you been reading mumsnet again?

Heh mine asks the same thing when I randomly tell him I love him grin

ShowMePotatoSalad Sat 07-Oct-17 17:37:14

But that's not to say I dont appreciate my DH because I absolutely do. He's a genuinely lovely person, good sense of humour, amd would help anyone. Plus he's absolutely gorgeous. wink

ethelfleda Sat 07-Oct-17 17:43:29

YANBU and I'm raising a glass too mine and yours too (non alcoholic though as 8 months pg!!)

ImDoingLaundry Sat 07-Oct-17 17:44:09

I was just thinking this after lurking on a thread about one of those bastard husbands. I feel so awful for the posters who are with these men.
DP might drive me mad sometimes but he's the best partner and father I could wish for. Nice to see some of us are in very happy relationships smile

MamaOfTwos Sat 07-Oct-17 20:21:03

Raising a glass of OJ (12w pg) to all the men out their who make their partners happy.

I agree with the PP who says that happiness is appreciating what you have got. We might be poor as church mice and bursting at the seams of our house but we're happy and healthy and that's worth a lot tbusmile

MistressDeeCee Sat 07-Oct-17 20:28:10

I had a shit DH. Left, and later met my lovely OH. We do love appreciate and respect each other. I don't know that I'd tell him I'm "lucky" to have him tho. Sounds too much like putting on a pedestal/bestowing sainthood. I do occasionally tell him I'm glad I met him. He says likewise. 'Lucky' sounds odd to me. But if you're happy, that's the main thing

WhooooAmI24601 Sat 07-Oct-17 20:28:35

We went to a party this afternoon to celebrate a 60th wedding anniversary and as the couple stood there talking about their lives I thought "I truly hope that DH and I reach this point" because he's a good guy.

He pisses me off and occasionally does ridiculous shit when he's unsupervised (like turning everyone's white school shirts pink by washing them with a bright red t-shirt then standing wide-eyed at the door of the washing machine saying "I thought they'd invented clothes that didn't do that any more - this is something that used to happen in the 80's") but he's great. Just great.

Columbine1 Sat 07-Oct-17 20:45:52

Lol Ticketyboo

gingercat02 Sat 07-Oct-17 20:46:07

Ha ha OP I was wondering earlier was I the only person left not married to a wander. Mine is lovely. Bit lazy about housework shit but so am I. Perfectly suited

ComingUpTrumps Sat 07-Oct-17 20:50:26

Gretchen flowers

MamaOfTwos Sat 07-Oct-17 20:53:59

As if to reinforce this post, DH has just handed me a full tub of B&J cookie dough, a spoon and the TV remote whilst he's washing up blush

londonista Sat 07-Oct-17 21:03:56

I love this thread.

My husband is literally the best human that I’ve ever met.
He’s so patient, intelligent, funny, works hard, great dad, thoughtful. He listens more than he speaks. He thinks of others before himself. And he has the kindest heart of anyone I know.

Every time my phone pings I hope it’s him. A great person and an amazing husband. So so lucky!

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