To think that social media makes parenting harder

[BeansandSausages]

Long time lurker here, never an OP.

I have a child with some minor issues in behaviour, and had the joy of seeing it plastered on Facebook tonight. Clearly, it was known that I would see it. No names but DC confessed immediately (brutal honesty is one of his traits) with a little prompt of what happened today...

Personally, you just speak to the school or the parents, don't you. Not splash it everywhere so others, who don't know the whole story, can jump on a bandwagon and say hideous things - some of which instigate hurting said child. Irony, much?

It led me and DH to think about how different it was for our folks, you often didn't know the other parents and would just sort it at school. None of this worry in the meantime. None of the looking at comments about your own DC. I hasten to add it's not actually that bad. I am realistic about my DC and am the first to try to sort it, not a sun shines out of his arse kind.

It's the other stuff too - parties your DC hasn't been to, worrying about people uploading pics of your DC, all sorts.

I think I'm in a fog of feeling shit, but what do you think, does it make it harder?

[existentialmoment]

I don't think so, but then I don;t have friends on FB who would vaguebook about petty kids crap. You have chosen to do so, so you can't really complain about it now.

[BeansandSausages]

I have indeed, mainly because it was for sorting out playing, DC struggles socially so I do what I can to help. But you raise a good point about having people like that on there. It's not my style by a long shot.

[thatverynightinmaxsroom]

So far for me (preschool kids) it makes parenting easier because:

• It has helped me cross that line from acquaintance to friend with a few Mums I've met at toddler groups
  
• I follow/am a member of a few parenting FB groups which I've had really good advice from
  

But I don't think YABU about your particular situation.

I also know some people who find it makes parenting harder because they get jealous of what other people present on social media of themselves and their children, but personally I am well aware that most people post highlights and I enjoy seeing my friends and their kids looking happy.

[sukitea]

That was crap OP but YABU. Choose your friends wisely. Sadly I don't have any drama within my fb friends [DM sadface]
Also all this fretting about how instamums make them feel so inferior as a parent. It's an edited picture fgs. Maybe my bar is too low but I honestly couldn't give a hoot.

[BeansandSausages]

Same, the instagram thing and perfect pics don't bother me either. I do need to be braver and get on the delete button though, don't I.

[BeatriceBeaudelaire]

I left HS in 2011 .. Facebook became a thing in yr9 ... it made my life hell on earth.