Child's friends dad watching 15/18 cert film

[Storystarter]

We were at my friends house having been invited for tea, all our children playing in her living room, was around 6/7pm. Children aged from 7 to 12. Her husband comes back from work, chats to us for a bit, then goes through to the living room to watch tv with the children all in there too.

My daughter tells me on the way home that he was watching a film and there were pole dancers in the film and that she felt uncomfortable with it being on while she was in the room. I asked if her younger sister was in the room too, yes all the children were.

I just feel its rather inappropriate? I know my friend has let her children watch 12/15 films when they were around 6/8 years old. I feel uncomfortable now going with the children while he is around, IABU to feel uncomfortable about my girls being there while he is?

[RedSkyAtNight]

So where were you when all this was going on?
If his own DC are exposed to these films, it's unlikely that your friend's DH saw it as an issue. I'd personally say something along the lines of you'd prefer your DC didn't watch 12+ films, and could she go and play in the bedroom/kitchen/garden if DH wants to watch them.

[TeenTimesTwo]

If you asked them not to have 12/15/18 films on in a room where your children are, would they respect that?

[Storystarter]

In another room chatting to friend. I could hear the children playing happily enough.

Teentimestwo - I would be not comfortable doing that, he is very much a MAN and rather gobby at times. It would not go down well!

I do feel its a like it or lump it situation, its their house and their rules. I just feel uncomfortable with my own children viewing cert 15/18 films. It is possible to time visits for when he is not around. I just wasn't sure if I was being overly fussy!

[MimiSunshine]

So if you don't want to say anything to your friends I'd be telling your daughters to come to you or simply leave the room if something makes them uncomfortable.
Empower them to know that they don't have to put up with anything like that and it wouldn't be rude or naughtier to simply get up and walk away, this is the time to teach them that any behaviour (especially from a male) that steps over their personal boundaries doesn't have to be tolerated.

And next time just pop your head in to see what's on the TV as you now know that your friends have different tolerances

[existentialmoment]

I would have said to my DD "why didn;t you leave the room and come to me if you were unconfortable? It's not much use telling me afterwards"