How do doctors mate?

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

Inspired by another thread which said that doctors can't start a relationship with their patients made me wonder what happens if there is a reciprocal attraction?

Loads of people meet their partners at work so it seems a bit of a barrier for them.

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

sorry meant to post this in chat not AIBU!

[ReggaetonLente]

I was literally just thinking this on the other thread!!

[KarateKitten]

🙄 Have you never noticed how many doctors are married to other doctors or nurses? Where do you think they met them?

[Evelynismyspyname]

My parents are both doctors. There are lots of doctor-doctor and doctor-nurse couples. It is also an option to meet people other than at work

What do you think teachers do?

[casio123]

my cousin married a girl he met at uni...so probably just like other people. Just because you can't date your patients doesn't mean you can't date colleagues etc. I think in most professions you don't date clients..

[Steeley113]

They generally marry within the profession. Or from outside social circles such as uni friends from other courses. I know a few nurses married to patients though.

[Peanutbuttercheese]

DH Dr cousin is married to a surgeon.

Lots of people do meet at work or through work though.

[MyBrilliantDisguise]

They're at university for years - I imagine a lot meet there. Then they're on placements with lots of other young people - they could meet there, too. They really don't have to look at their patients for partners!

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

How do they mate.
Erm the usual way, id imagine

[Dalphidol]

Two doctors in my family both married other doctors in different specialties.

Two friends of mine, one a gp and the other a dentist both married to people they met in uni.

[EBearhug]

Going by Casualty and Holby (which obviously are totally accurate and true-to-life,) they work through all the other staff over time.

[wump]

Evelynismyspyname i have heard from a TA friend that teacher's get very busy sleeping with fellow teachers TA's and parents!

[Ttbb]

Most doctors I know (a disproportionate amount) are either married to doctors (usually the same pay grade so GPs to GPs, specialists to specialists and so on). Or academics (mostly chemists/physicists etc). Or pretty, university educated women who become SAHMs.

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

What do you think teachers do?

Hopefully not marry their students!

I do realise that doctors meet people other than patients and have a life outside the surgery but it's not totally unrealistic to think that a dr and a patient might be attracted to each other and want to pursue a romantic relationship.

[thecolonelbumminganugget]

Doctors I know are indeed married to other people in the medical profession.

DH and I are both accountants, when we went to give notice the registrar asked me what we did for a living and when I told him he joked, if ones an accountant you can guarantee the other one is too, I don't think i've ever married an accountant to a non-accountant.

[casio123]

the patient would just transfer to another surgery... it's not complicated!!

[bananafish81]

Lots of Dr friends

Every single one is married / partnered with another Dr or medical professional (eg clinical psychologist, physio)

When you spend your entire 20s training in a hospital, the only people you ever meet are other medics!

Lots of rota swapping amongst friends to attend weddings

[x2boys]

Lots of Drs are married to other Drs or nurses i was a nurse for many years lots and lots of people get together with collegues woek nights out were notorious for people getting together.....

[Cheekyandfreaky]

lol I read this as eluding to the fact that they see so many human bodies all day they must be totally turned off by them- kind of like when you cook something over and over or for a long time that you then don't feel like eating. I wonder how they mate after seeing various sti symptoms for example. Okay, tone lowered, I'll be off.

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

You say that but at what point does the patient transfer?! After agreeing to go out for a meal, first shag ... ?

[Steeley113]

I'm a hcp not married to a hcp! I feel like a rare breed but we've been together since we were teens 😉

[bluebannana]

I have been in a medically related profession for 16 years and can honestly say I've never been attracted to a patient. Some are good looking, many are nice people but you just don't look at them that way. Some collegues have had relationships/married people they work with most have not.

Officially you are not allowed to have a relationship with a patient whilst they are your patient. In theory you could start a relationship after you have discharged them, but personally I think this would be morally very dodgy when you have seen someone in a vulnerable position. I think hypothetically I would want many years to have elapsed before I would even consider a relationship with an ex patient.

[Steeley113]

The nurse-patient relationships I've seen tended to happen after the patient has been discharged. I've never seen it happen in a GP surgery though.

[x2boys]

Really though you shouldnt be looking at a patient as a potential love interest , admittedly i was a mental health nurse and my patients were paticularly vulnerable.