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How do doctors mate?

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RebeccaWithTheGoodHair Thu 05-Oct-17 11:53:14

Inspired by another thread which said that doctors can't start a relationship with their patients made me wonder what happens if there is a reciprocal attraction?

Loads of people meet their partners at work so it seems a bit of a barrier for them.

RebeccaWithTheGoodHair Thu 05-Oct-17 11:53:48

sorry meant to post this in chat not AIBU!

ReggaetonLente Thu 05-Oct-17 11:54:20

I was literally just thinking this on the other thread!!

DancesWithOtters Thu 05-Oct-17 11:54:24


KarateKitten Thu 05-Oct-17 11:54:41

🙄 Have you never noticed how many doctors are married to other doctors or nurses? Where do you think they met them?

Evelynismyspyname Thu 05-Oct-17 11:55:26

My parents are both doctors. There are lots of doctor-doctor and doctor-nurse couples. It is also an option to meet people other than at work hmm

What do you think teachers do?

casio123 Thu 05-Oct-17 11:56:06

my cousin married a girl he met at probably just like other people. Just because you can't date your patients doesn't mean you can't date colleagues etc. I think in most professions you don't date clients..

Steeley113 Thu 05-Oct-17 11:57:32

They generally marry within the profession. Or from outside social circles such as uni friends from other courses. I know a few nurses married to patients though.

Peanutbuttercheese Thu 05-Oct-17 11:57:48

DH Dr cousin is married to a surgeon.

Lots of people do meet at work or through work though.

MyBrilliantDisguise Thu 05-Oct-17 11:58:05

They're at university for years - I imagine a lot meet there. Then they're on placements with lots of other young people - they could meet there, too. They really don't have to look at their patients for partners!

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 05-Oct-17 11:59:42

How do they mate.
Erm the usual way, id imaginegrin

Dalphidol Thu 05-Oct-17 11:59:45

Two doctors in my family both married other doctors in different specialties.

Two friends of mine, one a gp and the other a dentist both married to people they met in uni.

EBearhug Thu 05-Oct-17 12:00:01

Going by Casualty and Holby (which obviously are totally accurate and true-to-life,) they work through all the other staff over time.

wump Thu 05-Oct-17 12:01:00

Evelynismyspyname i have heard from a TA friend that teacher's get very busy sleeping with fellow teachers TA's and parents!

Ttbb Thu 05-Oct-17 12:01:09

Most doctors I know (a disproportionate amount) are either married to doctors (usually the same pay grade so GPs to GPs, specialists to specialists and so on). Or academics (mostly chemists/physicists etc). Or pretty, university educated women who become SAHMs.

RebeccaWithTheGoodHair Thu 05-Oct-17 12:01:17

What do you think teachers do?

Hopefully not marry their students!

I do realise that doctors meet people other than patients and have a life outside the surgery but it's not totally unrealistic to think that a dr and a patient might be attracted to each other and want to pursue a romantic relationship.

thecolonelbumminganugget Thu 05-Oct-17 12:02:00

Doctors I know are indeed married to other people in the medical profession.

DH and I are both accountants, when we went to give notice the registrar asked me what we did for a living and when I told him he joked, if ones an accountant you can guarantee the other one is too, I don't think i've ever married an accountant to a non-accountant.

casio123 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:02:52

the patient would just transfer to another surgery... it's not complicated!!

bananafish81 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:04:48

Lots of Dr friends

Every single one is married / partnered with another Dr or medical professional (eg clinical psychologist, physio)

When you spend your entire 20s training in a hospital, the only people you ever meet are other medics!

Lots of rota swapping amongst friends to attend weddings

x2boys Thu 05-Oct-17 12:05:43

Lots of Drs are married to other Drs or nurses i was a nurse for many years lots and lots of people get together with collegues woek nights out were notorious for people getting together.....

Cheekyandfreaky Thu 05-Oct-17 12:06:27

lol I read this as eluding to the fact that they see so many human bodies all day they must be totally turned off by them- kind of like when you cook something over and over or for a long time that you then don't feel like eating. I wonder how they mate after seeing various sti symptoms for example. Okay, tone lowered, I'll be off.

RebeccaWithTheGoodHair Thu 05-Oct-17 12:06:47

You say that but at what point does the patient transfer?! After agreeing to go out for a meal, first shag ... ?

Steeley113 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:07:01

I'm a hcp not married to a hcp! I feel like a rare breed but we've been together since we were teens 😉

bluebannana Thu 05-Oct-17 12:08:44

I have been in a medically related profession for 16 years and can honestly say I've never been attracted to a patient. Some are good looking, many are nice people but you just don't look at them that way. Some collegues have had relationships/married people they work with most have not.

Officially you are not allowed to have a relationship with a patient whilst they are your patient. In theory you could start a relationship after you have discharged them, but personally I think this would be morally very dodgy when you have seen someone in a vulnerable position. I think hypothetically I would want many years to have elapsed before I would even consider a relationship with an ex patient.

Steeley113 Thu 05-Oct-17 12:09:03

The nurse-patient relationships I've seen tended to happen after the patient has been discharged. I've never seen it happen in a GP surgery though.

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