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Report it to the police.

Police.

Is this some sort of joke that's not funny or do you think he's actually serious?

Next time he calls get your partner to pick up and tell him some truths. Failing that- police.

Seriously, I'd log it with the Police, keep the voicemail. A friend's son left a similar sort of message on an ex's phone and he was charged with misuse of the telecommunications act or something similar. The police took it very seriously.

Wtf. Do report this. Disturbing.

I'm not sure if he thinks it's funny or not. He's a very bright guy with emotional intelligence, so it's not that he's oblivious. He's not joking when he says he'll come round - I do think he'll just pitch up.

Report him OP

That's very wierd , make a statement as for all you know he Might have form for this ?

Very creepy. Police for sure.

Wtf. Creepy.

Police - that sounds like a threat to me.

Wtf indeed. I'm sat here scared to death. I don't live with my OH --and he's not here often enough to necessarily be here when he rings. Plus I've blocked his number anyway, so his calls don't come through but obviously, voicemails do.

You need to be explicitly clear that you do not want contact with him, if he continues, then police involvement is justifiable. At this point, you haven't actually been honest with him.

Police.

Report to the police and ask their advice about whether you send him a message saying that that was completely inappropriate and he is to stop sending you messages, or whether you just block him.

Police.

I'd phone the police. He'd likely get a harassment warning.

Absolutely police then they'll know if he turns up and you need to call them !'

Grace - you could say that I haven't been honest but who just keeps on texting, calling and threatening to come round when the other person has said they're busy (code for leave me alone) and then doesn't respond at all? ESPECIALLY when it's a man to a woman. You'd get the message.

'Futher un wanted communication from you will be treated as harassment and I will contact the police.'

Then block him on all methods of communication, social media etc.

If he tries to contact you or goes to your home, keep the door and windows locked and phone the police.

Jesus. What scale of contact are we talking before you blocked him? Does ha have form for this?

Definitely report this to the police, and ask them to serve him with a harassment warning. He sounds batshit.

I'm not on any social media with him and I'm pretty tight on home security, so rationally, I know he couldn't get in but I'm still crapping myself here.

Jeez, ring the police! He's threatening you.

Keep all your doors and windows locked. Can you get a friend to come and stay with you tonight?

Just call him up and say that you're not interested and he can forget about thinking he has anything to pursue. Hardly 'police' level yet - so he could be a murderous bastard but I think they are far and few in reality.