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To think kids shouldn't talk to teachers like this.

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onlyindreams Tue 03-Oct-17 17:18:53

I realise that the majority of kids will show respect to teachers but some of the stuff my dgc tell me is awful. One girl called her teacher a disgusting human being" , another said "you dirty little peado", another one said, when asked not to shout "who do you think you're talking to".

How has it all come to this, i despair, where's the respect gone, please tell me it's not all that bad and not typical of the average 12/13 year old and probably above.

Lm9004 Tue 03-Oct-17 17:22:13

I am a year 5 teacher. There would be serioud consequences for any child in my class who spoke to me in that way. One of the reasons I chose primary though.

Eolian Tue 03-Oct-17 17:23:27

Those comments probably aren't typical, but there's a hell of a lot of disrespect. I asked a boy (politely) to stop chatting and get on with his work the other day. He totally ignored me at first, as if I hadn't spoken. Then when I repeated my request, he turned to me angrily and yelled "I'm HAVING a CONVERSATION hmm". Then when I told him off for being rude, he stormed out of the lesson. That's quite a common attitude tbh.

NoCryLilSoftSoft Tue 03-Oct-17 17:26:22

You need to watch "education greater Manchester" on Thursday night, 9pm channel 4. It's a real eye opener wrt the level of disrespect aimed at teachers in some schools.

Katedotness1963 Tue 03-Oct-17 17:26:35

I would go mad if I found out my kids were talking to anyone like that! Surely that kind of behaviour would see a pupil sent straight to the headmasters office?

NoCryLilSoftSoft Tue 03-Oct-17 17:26:40


Lm9004 Tue 03-Oct-17 17:30:18


I would send a child to the headmistress in my school. I once had a girl say her dad was to going to come and beat the s* out of me for making her stand up for the afternpon as she had been leaning back on her chair.

TwatteryFlowers Tue 03-Oct-17 17:30:50

Part of the problem is that there is a lack of respect for teachers in general - not just from children but from parents, the press and the government. Until that attitude changes I can't see there being much of an improvement in the attitude of the children we're trying to teach.

Eolian Tue 03-Oct-17 17:37:17

Surely that kind of behaviour would see a pupil sent straight to the headmasters office?

Headmaster is probably too busy, and anyway there is not enough room in a headmaster's office for all the many rude children. And the rudest probably wouldn't give a monkey's about being sent to the headmaster anyway.

Eolian Tue 03-Oct-17 17:39:01

Many of the rude ones have probably learnt the rudeness from their parents. Parents who will back their child and claim the teacher is being unreasonable to expect politeness from their child.

Juicyfruitloop Tue 03-Oct-17 17:39:13

It's awful but I'm sure in happens often in some secondary schools.

I would not tolerate my DC speaking to any adult let alone a professional.

I take my hat off to teachers ambulance drivers, fire service, nurses. I think it's disgusting to speak to anyone that way but someone doing an important job it's so wrong.

LittleBooInABox Tue 03-Oct-17 17:39:34

I work with teenagers and frequently hear "suck your mum" across the class.

ReinettePompadour Tue 03-Oct-17 17:41:33

Unfortunately this is very common at a considerable number of high schools.

My last 3 through high school all went to different schools and all reported that this was very common every day type occurrence. Some children think they can say what they like without consequences, unfortunately they seem to be correct. Lots of parents dont seem to believe their child behaves in such a way or believe the staff must have done something for their little darling to behave towards them in such a way hmm

Bobbybobbins Tue 03-Oct-17 17:42:27

I have been a secondary teacher in an inner city comp for 15 years and luckily never been sworn at. Our school is incredibly strict on behaviour. I sent a kid out for saying 'crap' a few years ago grin I did however get accused of being racist for asking a kid to stop talking over me. Now that was an interesting chat with my HOD.

BeyondThePage Tue 03-Oct-17 17:42:46

Some teachers command respect, others don't. Some kids are respectful, others aren't.

Hard to know what to say to be honest - my kids are generally respectful, their teachers are generally the type who command respect.

spanieleyes Tue 03-Oct-17 17:43:34

I was called a f*****g b***h this week, and that's in a primary school!

Scroobius Tue 03-Oct-17 17:44:13

Twatteryflowers has got it exactly right. How can you expect teenagers to think they have to show any respect to a group of people who are continuously disrespected by the rest of society. I'm a teacher in a nice area so don't get it from the children so much but the complete lack of giving a fuck about how much I care about and try to do for the children in my care is easily the hardest thing about my job.

AlwaysDancing1234 Tue 03-Oct-17 17:45:09

Sadly it’s seems increasingly common in high schools and alsonpromary schools. I’ve heard children as young as 8 swearing at staff. When they brought the parent in she blamed the teachers for winding him up hmm

onlyconnect Tue 03-Oct-17 17:49:42

I've heard friends sort of giggling and acting as if it's a sign of character if their child's a bit rude to a teacher. And they're the sort of people who'd say that parents should support schools. I know teachers who don't support their own children's teachers. There is a massive problem and it's a big national attitude at its root.

Out2pasture Tue 03-Oct-17 17:50:32

Is there a difference between small vs larger schools? State vs private?

Foxyloxy1plus1 Tue 03-Oct-17 17:50:51

What if they're not at all bothered about going to the Head teacher's office and what is the teacher going to do he next time the child is rude. You can't keep sending them elsewhere because you have to keep teaching them and you've brought out the big guns and there's no one else.

Yes, some are like that. Some have zero respect for education and the people in it. Probably just zero respect really. If you are very clear about managing behaviour well, you will get most on side. There will always be some who ignore the rules, have no idea what acceptable behaviour is and will say and do everything they can to disrupt learning.

It's also true that there are parents who simply cannot accept that their child has misbehaved or been rude and disrespectful. They also refuse to allow any sanction for the child, so then what do you do?

cricketballs Tue 03-Oct-17 17:51:18

The last few years I've noticed (secondary teacher) this is becoming far too common. There are still, thankfully, students who don't and are shocked and disgusted when they hear staff being spoken to this way but this is sadly decreasing.

MyBrilliantDisguise Tue 03-Oct-17 17:52:37

I can't imagine it happening in a private school - they'd get kicked out, surely?

onlyindreams Tue 03-Oct-17 17:52:49

It was a quite a while ago when i was at school, but teachers never really got spoken to like that. We all had respect for them, there's no way we'd have come out with the that kind of stuff. I just wonder if parents are told what some of their little darlings come out with and what are their reactions to it.

Changerofname987654321 Tue 03-Oct-17 17:55:44

I am only is my 8 year of teaching and I have noticed an increase in the lack of parental support for teaching. No wonder we have a retention crisis.

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