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To get botox on the sly

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EyebrowRaise · 29/09/2017 19:59

I've namechanged for this as really don't want to get found out.
My friend has recently trained to give botox injections and has offered to do the "frown lines" on my forehead. I have been wanting them done for a while now as they are getting quite ingrained. My problem is that she has hers done (obviously not by herself)and her eyebrows are a good three inches above her eyes and look ridiculous, she is also incredibly hamfisted when it comes to anything practical, and is severely lacking in artistic judgement. Bless her, that sounds awful, but she is not the sort of person who would take a criticism at all well. I would much prefer to get them done by some one with a medical qualification, but she has mentioned it a couple of times now and has recently given up her job to pursue this new career. I do see her fairly frequently, and am running out of ways to put her off.
WIBU to have them done sneakily at a proper clinic, and how do I do this and avoid upsetting her? I do trust that there are experienced clinicians that can do a proper job, and have a recommendation for an excellent lady not too far away, I'm just dithering because it will be obvious I went somewhere else so I will have to own up eventually, meanwhile my lines are getting more obvious.

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LadyintheRadiator · 29/09/2017 20:01

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DontForgetTheLightAlesLawrence · 29/09/2017 20:05

I would sneak off elsewhere, OP. Wearing ones eyebrows as Alice Bands is never a good look.

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IrritatedUser1960 · 29/09/2017 20:08

No, no and no. I get a doctor to do mine, you don't owe her anything and it can look bloody awful if it goes wrong.

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AFrayedKnott · 29/09/2017 20:09

You are being very shallow, OP. Hmm

A few lines are good indicators of someone who has character... who has lived a little
Embrace your imperfections!

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Athome77 · 29/09/2017 20:10

I was at the dentist recently and had to fill out the standard forms and out Botox on (I get it once a year), dentist went on to say she hadn't noticed, but another member of staff had recently dualified and they were offering discounts, I said I'd think about it, but honestly I'd stick with my more expensive person, she used to be a nurse (still is qualified) and has loads of experience in making people look natural. I wouldn't want to risk it with someone with only a bit of experience

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Megsmcgoo · 29/09/2017 20:10

Definitely get it done by a medical, experienced professional! I would always pay more for something to do with my face

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Chapterandverse · 29/09/2017 20:11

Is it the lines between your eyes?

I'd love them done too.

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EyebrowRaise · 29/09/2017 20:19

I have already, when her idea of retraining was just an idea, laughingly agreed to let her do it. I have been feeling an impending sense of doom the closer it has got to a reality. Yes, LadyintheRadiator, you can train without being an actual medic. I have supported her, but inside I am freaking out at the idea.

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LadyintheRadiator · 29/09/2017 20:21

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EyebrowRaise · 29/09/2017 20:22

Yes I am shallow, AFrayedKnott, the lines aren't though, my foundation ends up sat in them like I am about to do a lino print with my face.

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Ratonastick · 29/09/2017 20:26

Definitely get them done by someone with a lot of experience. It's easy to cock up and leave the patient with droopy eyelids or startled brows. You'll have to live with it for 3-6 months (or longer if she hits something important) not her. If you are in Oxford or Leamington, I'd recommend Rosie Cooper. She's awesome and was recommended to me by a surgeon!

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EyebrowRaise · 29/09/2017 20:50

I'm not so far from Leamington, thank you, Ratonastick, I will look her up.

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justgivemethepinot · 29/09/2017 21:01

No go to someone who is medically trained and knows their way round the facial muscles, too much can go wrong to risk it.

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violetbunny · 29/09/2017 21:14

Ignore the shallow comments Hmm I get (very light) Botox and there is no way I'd get it from someone who only just trained. I would definitely get it done elsewhere.

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cheesetoast · 29/09/2017 21:16

Look at Zooey, she has all the money to spend on the best surgeons/injections, and this is her new face. Do you really want to let you hamfisted pal have a shot? Just say no!

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elevenclips · 29/09/2017 22:03

No way would I let her do it. If you really want it done, go and get it done somewhere more reputable.

However it would probably be better to embrace your looks rather than seek to change them. There is a woman on my school run who has had some cosmetic work done and she looks like she is permanently startled. She was very pretty before and the work was completely unnecessary and detrimental.

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limitedperiodonly · 30/09/2017 12:34

I don't know where you live OP but I know a retired doctor in Harley Street who could help. I wouldn't recommend him because he's getting on a bit and his hands shake. But one of the other people in the surgery could sort you out. PM me if you want

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pandarific · 30/09/2017 12:58

Did people think Zooey looks bad? I think she looks lovely Confused

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limitedperiodonly · 30/09/2017 13:03

Zooey looks like Coleen Nolan

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Gorgosparta · 30/09/2017 13:12

Only two people know i have it. Thats the woman that does it and my colleague who has it done at the same time.

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BobTheGoldfish · 30/09/2017 20:28

Assuming she doesn't have a prescriber qualification you would have to see someone else first to prescribe the Botox for her to use.

The theory of injections is easy, but in practice it takes a good few years to learn the skill. Standard doses will work for most people but will cause excessive weakness in a minority.

You are definitely right to only go to experienced professionals- preferably someone with a prescriber qualification.

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FizzyGreenWater · 30/09/2017 20:42

Tell her you were reading something about it being against professional ethics to perform procedures on personal friends. Say it had never occurred to you before but now you're thinking OF COURSE! What if something were to go wrong - dodgy batch of Botox for example - and you ended up with problems? Bad enough with any practitioner but imagine the effect on your friendship - how guilty she would feel if even accidentally she caused you harm and how you'd be left unable to pursue a claim because you'd never want to hurt her. You value her and your friendship too much to take that chance. :)

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chipsandpeas · 30/09/2017 20:50

she will know you have had it done

i get botox done, and i can tell about 5 people in work who also have had it done

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00100001 · 30/09/2017 21:03

Don't have botox at all!


It's a ridiculous thing to do!

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limitedperiodonly · 30/09/2017 23:18

Botox is a glorious little thing

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