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"I really admire your confidence especially considering your skin"

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Bumblebeesss Fri 29-Sep-17 08:46:08

I have very bad acne scarring (mostly boxcar/ice pick/rolling scars, not so much discolouration these days). I’ve spent nearly £7k over the years on all sorts of treatments ranging from fractional lasers to microdermabrasions to subcision, to very minimal results, so it’s not as if I’m a slob who doesn’t care.

As luck would have it, my experience with makeup (even the ones that are often mentioned on here) is that it either 1. Breaks me out or 2. Makes my depressed scars look worse in harsh lighting. That essentially means that I don’t really wear makeup anymore.

Anyway, I’d been living with it for a few years now, and to be frank, I was at a point where it stopped affecting me because to me it’s just another part of my face. Today though, I had someone say what’s in the title to me and I’m back to obsessing over it!

AIBU in thinking that no matter how much time has passed there will always be some things about ourselves we’ll never be comfortable with?

ArgyMargy Fri 29-Sep-17 08:52:01

Whoever said that to you was at best thoughtless and at worst trying to undermine that confidence. You can win by forgetting about it. Easy to say, I know.

Fekko Fri 29-Sep-17 08:54:49

What a stupid thing to say. Your skin is just one part of the whole you, so try to put the comment behind you.

redexpat Fri 29-Sep-17 08:55:04

Oh thats an insult disguised as a compliment. Ouch. Im sorry this happened to you.

ohfourfoxache Fri 29-Sep-17 08:55:49

Whoever it was who said that to you is one of life's arseholes shock

Says a lot more about them than it does about you

AuntLydia Fri 29-Sep-17 08:56:04

I'm not surprised it has knocked you back but whoever said that was trying to bring you down. People generally only do that to people they envy or who make them feel inadequate in some way.

shooeghMcFee Fri 29-Sep-17 08:57:30

There's always some bastard out there who likes to make other people feel bad. Try to pity the person who needs to say such stuff.

Butterymuffin Fri 29-Sep-17 08:57:33

What an idiot. It will be 'just another part of your face' to people who know you and people with any sense. You ran into one of the stupid ones on this occasion.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Fri 29-Sep-17 08:57:48

That is a truly bitchy and nasty thing to say.

dyathinkso Fri 29-Sep-17 08:59:04

Says more about them than about you.

As hard as it may be, you need to forget it and chalk it up to them being an arsehole

EarlGreyT Fri 29-Sep-17 08:59:10

I'd like to tell whoever said that to fuck off for you.

And I agree with fourfox

Laura0806 Fri 29-Sep-17 09:01:25

I knew someone like that-constantly making nasty remarks veiled as saying something nice. I suspect she is jealous of you and was looking for a way to put you down. Take it as a compliment and don't let it affect you!

Funnyface1 Fri 29-Sep-17 09:02:46

That's just a horrible thing to say and seems designed to try and make you feel self conscious. Carry on as you were.

Ttbb Fri 29-Sep-17 09:05:20

I knew someone with similar skin. He always seemed fine to be but it turned out he was really sensitive about it. In the end he got it sorted out with some very aggressive enzyme peel treatments.

SaucyJack Fri 29-Sep-17 09:06:39


I strongly advise you not to waste any more headspace on whichever unpleasant loser said that to you.

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes Fri 29-Sep-17 09:06:47

Think the best response would be "i really admire your honesty despite what a spiteful arsehole you are." That was an appalling and unnecessary thing to say to you - what a knob. angry

highinthesky Fri 29-Sep-17 09:07:32

See the gift in the situation...a closet bitch has been outed.

TheEgregiousPeach Fri 29-Sep-17 09:10:13

Bloody rude and intentionally nasty. I expect they're jealous of you tbh. Assign them to your arsehole list. At least you now know they're a bit of a tit and can avoid their spiteful self

TheEgregiousPeach Fri 29-Sep-17 09:11:01

Ooh x post highinthesky smile

Desperad0 Fri 29-Sep-17 09:12:09

Did said person also have skin issues though? They might (but maybe hidden) and actually really look up to you

I know you weren't looking for advice but have you tried dermaroller?

mymorningbeautyroutine Fri 29-Sep-17 09:12:36

That tells you more about them than it does about you.

Your skin is only one tiny part of you. Sounds like they're jealous of you and want to upset you.

Don't let it.

CoolCarrie Fri 29-Sep-17 09:13:00

What a nasty thing to say, what a shit person! Says more about them than you.

FakePlasticTeaLeaves Fri 29-Sep-17 09:15:28

That's a terrible thing for someone to say, sorry OP.
It would knock me to. Is this person a friend? I think most people would realise this is not a compliment.

MrTrebus Fri 29-Sep-17 09:15:32

I had This! Massive adult acne break out randomly one day and ended up on Roaccutane via the hospital dermatologist. During that time my face made me so so depressed and I used to hate dealing with customers at work. And whenever they made any kind of comments I used to feel terrible even if it was "ooh your face has cleared up a bit today" it's so unnecessary and i know how you feel. Poor you, just ignore these idiots!!

Garlicansapphire Fri 29-Sep-17 09:16:38

What a bitch. Fuck em.

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