I'm having a hard time forgiving my sis-in-law for the way she behaved when my baby was born. My son was very ill shortly after birth and spent weeks in intensive care. It was touch and go and for a long time we weren't sure whether he was going to make it. Thankfully he pulled through, but there is a good chance he will have lasting effects from his illness.
Anyway, during our time in hospital my sis-in-law made almost no contact with us at all. I received one text from her complaining about being uncomfortable with her baby bump, i thought this was quite insensitive as our son was fighting for his life. My father in law visited every day and he mentioned that despite speaking to his daughter several times she didn't once ask after our son. He was also very hurt by this.
She made no effort to visit us in hospital, ok you might say she was heavily pregnant but even after we came home and her baby was born she did not come and visit until our boy was 3 months old. She never asks about how he is or how his many, many appointments have gone. He has had brain scans, hearing tests, physio etc she knows about all the appointments but never asks after him.
I thought I would feel better as time went on but with every week that goes by and she doesn't ask after him I get more and more angry. I haven't confronted her as my husband isn't keen for me to do so (it's his sister). He has very little family so I would feel bad if it caused them to fall out but equally I feel it is eating me up.
Should I forgive and forget for the sake of my husband? Or do you agree that her behaviour unforgivable?
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Katehy · 26/09/2017 19:16
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