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DressedCrab · 26/09/2017 16:58

Friend "Liz" went on a coach trip today to a historic house. She went with a friend and they took a double seat about halfway down the coach.

A woman was sitting on her own in front of them in the window seat. The coach began to fill up until there were hardly any seats left. A somewhat overweight woman wanted to sit next to the woman in front of Liz and tried to lift the arm rest between the seats. The woman pushed it back down and an argument developed.

The window woman said if she raised the armrest the other woman would then be sitting on her seat and she needed the room herself (she was also quite well built). The other woman said she'd be hanging over the edge of the seat and into the aisle if the armrest wasn't raised and window woman said it wasn't her problem. It carried on like that for a while with both women trying to hold onto the armrest.

Eventually the driver intervened and found aisle woman a different seat. Liz thinks window woman should have sucked it up, her friend didn't.

So who was unreasonable?

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FlandersRocks · 26/09/2017 17:02

Aisle woman was bu.

Past the armrest was window-woman's seat. I wouldn't want someone pressed right up against me either and to be frank, if they're too overweight to fit in one normal sized seat, that's a whole lot of their problem.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 26/09/2017 17:02

Nah, I agree with window woman. Having your personal space invaded is very unpleasant.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/09/2017 17:04

Aisle woman was bu.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 26/09/2017 17:05

Window woman was correct. I wouldn't want someone filling my space up

JenNtonic · 26/09/2017 17:06

If we were both large I'd leave the armrest up and help her out not humiliate her and have her ass half off the seat. No need for that x

Smoothyloopy · 26/09/2017 17:07

Arm rest was the dividing line between the two seats. Aisle woman bu

MrsEricBana · 26/09/2017 17:10

Yep armrest woman wbu.

notanurse2017 · 26/09/2017 17:11

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MrsEricBana · 26/09/2017 17:11

Aisle woman!!

shoofly · 26/09/2017 17:12

Aisle woman was unreasonable

Peachyking000 · 26/09/2017 17:15

Window person was in the right. I'm big myself and v conscious not to spill into other people's space

Piratesandpants · 26/09/2017 17:20

Window woman was right. It doesn't matter who you are or what shape you are, you need to make yourself fit into your own space Grin

MyBrilliantDisguise · 26/09/2017 17:22

I don't understand - so there was another seat available? Why didn't the second woman to get on take the other seat?

RaininSummer · 26/09/2017 17:23

Aisle woman wrong. Noone wants to be that close to a stranger.

picklemepopcorn · 26/09/2017 17:29

I've been on a coach where the seats slide out a little during the journey, so you are a little less cramped.

Allthebestnamesareused · 26/09/2017 17:35

As there was another seat available aisle woman should have just moved to it without the driver having to take her to it!

sproutish · 26/09/2017 18:02

Yep, aisle woman was BU. I’m big and when I’m on public transport I’m so conscious about invading other peoples space. If other spaces were free I’d always choose one where I’m not in someone else’s way.

DressedCrab · 26/09/2017 18:13

I think the driver may have rearranged some other passengers.

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emmyrose2000 · 27/09/2017 02:39

Window woman was 100% right.

Aisle woman was 100% wrong. She has no right to make her issues other peoples' problems.

MidniteScribbler · 27/09/2017 03:41

Aisle woman is BVVVVVU unreasonable. No one wants to be pressed up against another person that they aren't related to.

FiveShelties · 27/09/2017 04:11

Aisle woman definitely. I had a smilar thing on a flght where a woman wanted to lfe the arm rest and I refused. I hate personal contact and the arm rest to me is the boundary of your seat.

FiveShelties · 27/09/2017 04:12

lift the arm rest!

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DressedCrab · 27/09/2017 06:42

Thanks for the replies, looks like most agree with Liz and me. I hate being touched by strangers and I'd have kept the armrest down.

In the other woman's position I'd have got there early and bagged a window seat, giving others the choice whether or not to sit next to me.

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