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AIBU to wear black to a wedding?

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princess101085 Tue 26-Sep-17 11:01:18

I been invited to a weeding (only evening) and the bride has imposed some rules about what the females wear, no dresses above bottom of the knee length, no bright colours, as it may detract attention away from her so I brought a long maxi style dress, long sleeves, down to the floor etc, but it's black, I didn't see an issue as I'm only going to the evening part but a few people iv mentioned it to said I absolutely cannot wear black to a wedding? So what do you think? Is black ok for an evening do?

VladmirsPoutine Tue 26-Sep-17 11:03:14

I wouldn't do it but then again I'm not in favour of policing people's clothing choices.
I can't really imagine what you've described but it sounds a bit too casual to me, even if it is only the evening do you'll be attending.

princess101085 Tue 26-Sep-17 11:03:14

I do Apologise for the terrible spelling my huge dog is not allowing me space to type (she thinks 6 1/2 stone makes for a suitable lap dog)!

MaidOfStars Tue 26-Sep-17 11:05:36

Picture of dress?

Sounds a bit too much for a wedding. Black dress with detail/features would be fine. A black shroud is not.

LilaoftheGreenwood Tue 26-Sep-17 11:05:47

I wouldn't usually but it sounds like you're under enough constraints from the bride so sod that. It's an autumn/winter evening, I think that makes black less odd anyway - it WOULD look weird on a bright June day.

Could you make it a bit more weddingy with colour in the accessories?

babybubblescomingsoon Tue 26-Sep-17 11:05:49

Well... that pride sounds fun! Co-ordinate with gold maybe or another colour to add a splash ? That way it isn't more appropriate for a funeral!

Crispsheets Tue 26-Sep-17 11:06:21

Of course it's ok .

FindTheLightSwitchDarren Tue 26-Sep-17 11:06:59

Yanbu. Completely fine for an evening do imo. I'd probably wear it to the whole day too if I was invited (considering the bride asked for no bright colours).

My only 'rules' for weddings (for myself, not other people) are; no dresses which are mainly white and nothing too revealing.

princess101085 Tue 26-Sep-17 11:07:34

This Is the dress, was going to wear rose gold accessories

coddiwomple Tue 26-Sep-17 11:07:36

Absolutely no issue with black, even the royals were black at weddings, so I trust them on etiquette.

(apart from white/ivory/cream) or not bright colour apparently in your casehmm it's not really the colour the issue, but the style of the dress and how you accessorize it. If it's only the evening, it's not really the wedding, is it, wear what you want.

Many black dresses are clearly party dresses, and wouldn't be suitable for anything else than a party!

LilaoftheGreenwood Tue 26-Sep-17 11:08:27

Yes we're going to need a link so that we can be nosy helpful smile

FindTheLightSwitchDarren Tue 26-Sep-17 11:08:58

I think it's lovely op.

LilaoftheGreenwood Tue 26-Sep-17 11:09:41

x-post ooh that's nice. Rose good is good. I actually like the way they've styled it with a floppy hat too, do you do hats? (I don't, look like a right twit I am very envious of those who don't)

mumtri Tue 26-Sep-17 11:10:25

The hats a bit much.... 🙈🙈😂

Nuttynoo Tue 26-Sep-17 11:11:03

Black for an evening do is fine.

Idontevencareanymore Tue 26-Sep-17 11:11:10

With the amount of rules from the bride (zilla) I'd be wearing the dress just to annoy her!

Fwiw it's lovely.

princess101085 Tue 26-Sep-17 11:11:11

I like the hat to but I'm concerned there's a no hat rule that I'm not aware of yet grin

TheSockGoblin Tue 26-Sep-17 11:12:38

bahaha on the dress code in order not to detract from the lovely bride!

Why do people get like this? Ok fair enough you might not want your guests in floor length white or anything - but the rest is bonkers.

The dress is nice, i'd wear it.

FindTheLightSwitchDarren Tue 26-Sep-17 11:12:39

grin op. I like the hat. I love a hat at weddings.

FizzyGreenWater Tue 26-Sep-17 11:13:45

Does it matter - it's only a matter of time before she falls out with you and half the wedding invitees over random things by sound of it. Zilla through and through.

Mrsknackered Tue 26-Sep-17 11:14:16

I really wouldn't mind someone coming to my wedding in black and I'm sure when I do get married, a few will. I guess it depends on how traditional the wedding is?
I like the outfit.

coddiwomple Tue 26-Sep-17 11:14:43

Hats are great, but you don't wear them for an evening do.

That dress plus rose gold accessories sound lovely.

FindTheLightSwitchDarren Tue 26-Sep-17 11:15:41

Oh yeah, forgot for a moment that it was evening do. Maybe not the hat, unless it's cold and you could wear it outside.

Mrsknackered Tue 26-Sep-17 11:15:48

Sorry I didn't read properly. She sounds a nightmare. Go in a fluorescent mini skirt.

Viviennemary Tue 26-Sep-17 11:17:29

I think it's fine for evening but not great for daytime. I wouldn't be happy to be given a dress code by the bride. What a nerve!

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