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AIBU to wear black to a wedding?

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princess101085 · 26/09/2017 11:01

I been invited to a weeding (only evening) and the bride has imposed some rules about what the females wear, no dresses above bottom of the knee length, no bright colours, as it may detract attention away from her so I brought a long maxi style dress, long sleeves, down to the floor etc, but it's black, I didn't see an issue as I'm only going to the evening part but a few people iv mentioned it to said I absolutely cannot wear black to a wedding? So what do you think? Is black ok for an evening do?

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princess101085 · 26/09/2017 11:03

I do Apologise for the terrible spelling my huge dog is not allowing me space to type (she thinks 6 1/2 stone makes for a suitable lap dog)!

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VladmirsPoutine · 26/09/2017 11:03

I wouldn't do it but then again I'm not in favour of policing people's clothing choices.
I can't really imagine what you've described but it sounds a bit too casual to me, even if it is only the evening do you'll be attending.

MaidOfStars · 26/09/2017 11:05

Picture of dress?

Sounds a bit too much for a wedding. Black dress with detail/features would be fine. A black shroud is not.

LilaoftheGreenwood · 26/09/2017 11:05

I wouldn't usually but it sounds like you're under enough constraints from the bride so sod that. It's an autumn/winter evening, I think that makes black less odd anyway - it WOULD look weird on a bright June day.

Could you make it a bit more weddingy with colour in the accessories?

babybubblescomingsoon · 26/09/2017 11:05

Well... that pride sounds fun! Co-ordinate with gold maybe or another colour to add a splash ? That way it isn't more appropriate for a funeral!

Crispsheets · 26/09/2017 11:06

Of course it's ok .

FindTheLightSwitchDarren · 26/09/2017 11:06

Yanbu. Completely fine for an evening do imo. I'd probably wear it to the whole day too if I was invited (considering the bride asked for no bright colours).

My only 'rules' for weddings (for myself, not other people) are; no dresses which are mainly white and nothing too revealing.

princess101085 · 26/09/2017 11:07

This Is the dress, was going to wear rose gold accessories

AIBU to wear black to a wedding?
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coddiwomple · 26/09/2017 11:07

Absolutely no issue with black, even the royals were black at weddings, so I trust them on etiquette.

(apart from white/ivory/cream) or not bright colour apparently in your caseHmm it's not really the colour the issue, but the style of the dress and how you accessorize it. If it's only the evening, it's not really the wedding, is it, wear what you want.

Many black dresses are clearly party dresses, and wouldn't be suitable for anything else than a party!

LilaoftheGreenwood · 26/09/2017 11:08

Yes we're going to need a link so that we can be nosy helpful Smile

FindTheLightSwitchDarren · 26/09/2017 11:08

I think it's lovely op.

LilaoftheGreenwood · 26/09/2017 11:09

x-post ooh that's nice. Rose good is good. I actually like the way they've styled it with a floppy hat too, do you do hats? (I don't, look like a right twit I am very envious of those who don't)

mumtri · 26/09/2017 11:10

The hats a bit much.... 🙈🙈😂

Nuttynoo · 26/09/2017 11:11

Black for an evening do is fine.

Idontevencareanymore · 26/09/2017 11:11

With the amount of rules from the bride (zilla) I'd be wearing the dress just to annoy her!

Fwiw it's lovely.

princess101085 · 26/09/2017 11:11

I like the hat to but I'm concerned there's a no hat rule that I'm not aware of yet Grin

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TheSockGoblin · 26/09/2017 11:12

bahaha on the dress code in order not to detract from the lovely bride!

Why do people get like this? Ok fair enough you might not want your guests in floor length white or anything - but the rest is bonkers.

The dress is nice, i'd wear it.

FindTheLightSwitchDarren · 26/09/2017 11:12

Grin op. I like the hat. I love a hat at weddings.

FizzyGreenWater · 26/09/2017 11:13

Does it matter - it's only a matter of time before she falls out with you and half the wedding invitees over random things by sound of it. Zilla through and through.

Mrsknackered · 26/09/2017 11:14

I really wouldn't mind someone coming to my wedding in black and I'm sure when I do get married, a few will. I guess it depends on how traditional the wedding is?
I like the outfit.

coddiwomple · 26/09/2017 11:14

Hats are great, but you don't wear them for an evening do.

That dress plus rose gold accessories sound lovely.

FindTheLightSwitchDarren · 26/09/2017 11:15

Oh yeah, forgot for a moment that it was evening do. Maybe not the hat, unless it's cold and you could wear it outside.

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Mrsknackered · 26/09/2017 11:15

Sorry I didn't read properly. She sounds a nightmare. Go in a fluorescent mini skirt.

Viviennemary · 26/09/2017 11:17

I think it's fine for evening but not great for daytime. I wouldn't be happy to be given a dress code by the bride. What a nerve!

princess101085 · 26/09/2017 11:20

It's not a particularly traditional wedding, but the bride is known to be difficult and a bit of a madam, she has had bridesmaids colour their hair be to less attention grabbing colours because she doesn't want attention going away from her Hmm so it is treading on eggshells with outfit choices, I have the exact same dress in a dusky rose I was planning to wear but no pink as it clashes with the turquoise bridesmaid gowns apparently so I thought black is a safe bet? I'm sure I won't be the only one in black!

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