I was due to get married at 4pm. My maid of honour had stayed at the venue with me the night before so morning if the wedding we had a lovely breakfast, a nice spa bath etc and then MIL and SIL arrived around 11am. The drinks got opened, photos started getting taken and basically the party started. We had our own mini lodge so had plenty of room for all this. Hairdresser arrived, me, maid of honour and SIL got our hair done - my own sister (another bridesmaid) nowhere to be seen.
Around 2pm I started to get my dress on - no sign of my mother or sister. MIL asked where she was to which maid of honour sheepishly said "not here yet". MIL shook her head and then gave me a hug and tried to keep a front on.
3pm more family members started to arrive. No sign of my mother. By now the "pre-party" was starting to wind down and it was all about getting ready for the ceremony.
3.30 my mother turned up, came to the lodge and said "sorry we're late, we went to go and view a flat with your sister - hey it's a lovely flat you should see it!" I wanted to shout "I don't give a fuck about that right now!!" But didn't. She then said they'd also gone to have a look around a local garden centre before hand too. Sister refused to have her hair done by our hairdresser and my mum backed her up saying she didn't need it doing as she'd been to hairdressers earlier that week. She at least put the bridesmaid dress on (reluctantly) but wore no make up and quite frankly looked a fucking mess.
As soon as they got there my mum said "right we're going to go and get sat down, see you in a bit."
My mother in law had been with me all day yet my mother couldn't bring herself to stay with me for 10 minutes before the ceremony???
To top it off they left the reception early as they were "tired" and sister took off the bridesmaid dress immediately after the ceremony and sat there with a face like a slapped arse throughout the reception.
The next day my mum said the wedding was nice but "it was a bit of a long day for everyone wasn't it?" 😲 I snapped "no! It was my wedding day!" She backtracked and said "oh yes I know, it was lovely, we really enjoyed it". A long day??? My mil had been there since fucking breakfast and didn't think of it as a "long day".
My mum later commented that MIL had been "off" with her throughout the wedding. Yes she probably was - because she was fucking fuming about her behaviour.
This was a year and a half ago but I'm still hurt by it all. I wasn't a bridezilla and the wedding was a cheap, low level affair in a country pub. AIBU to think she made no fucking effort whatsoever? Who goes viewing flats and looking around garden shops an hour before their kid's wedding??
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ProverbialOuthouse · 26/09/2017 07:53
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