Am I being paranoid

[Motherwell91]

Do you ever get the feeling people don't want you around I do.... they don't even need to do anything I just suddenly feel awkward and watching everything I say even my closest friends. Does anyone else do this? I sometimes feel like straight out asking.... have I upset you? Even though there is no signs they are annoyed at me

[sodorjmum]

I do atm but i am suffering mentally atm so not sure if thats to with that but i do feel exactly like what youve said above alot.

[Motherwell91]

Since having my 2nd DD I have been suffering with somthing mentally.. (not to sure what as I don't pass on there postnatal testing or depression) im really struggling with it. how do you cope with it? I'm getting to the point im re reading texts looking for signs that people are annoyed with me.

[tehmina23]

I get paranoid like that but I have depression with psychosis, maybe have a chat to your gp - not saying you have a problem like I do but the gp would realise if things aren't right.

[MrsJamesAspey]

I often feel like this but I just refuse to think about it, and just rely on the fact that my friends keep inviting me out and messaging me so they can't dislike me that much.

[sodorjmum]

Motherwell im currently seeing drs about it all as i am not stable. Maybe worth contacting yours for a chat.
They may be able to help esp if this is all after having another child.

[Motherwell91]

Really glad to here others feeling this way. I'm currently waiting to start 'cognitive therapy' but that is 6 weeks away. I know there is no immediate fix.. but hope for a better healthier outlook on things. Do you ladies have any tips or coping mechanisms?

[Darkstar4855]

I used to worry a lot about stuff like that but I'm much better now. I bought a book on cognitive behavioural therapy which gives you exercises to do where you essentially challenge the negative assumption (e.g. that people don't want you around) by thinking theough what the evidence is and what the alternative explanation might be. I found it really helpful working through that with those sorts of situations. After a while I found it became automatic and I didn't need the book any more.

The book I use is called "Cognitive Behavioural Therapy" by Avy Joseph but I'm sure there are plenty of other good ones.

[Motherwell91]

Yes it is cbt that rang a bell as soon as I read it did you find it really helped?. I don't want to pass my paranoia onto my girls so really trying to get on top of it while there little.

[picklemepopcorn]

Just be totally rational about it, and I would suggest not spending too long thinking about it. If you aren't careful you can lose hours to weighing up the evidence in each direction. Tell yourself it's all fine and refuse to consider it. It's worth telling your friends too- I warned mine how I was feeling, and suggested they tell me directly if I'm being an arse because I was no longer able to assess whether people were fed up of me! Then I put it from my mind and refuse to consider it.