Any moment from now I am going to get the Christmas call from my MIL. My DH says IABU over my attitude or rather he agrees with me but doesn't want to be the bad guy.
My in-laws think that because my parents are no longer around they have a free pass to spend every Christmas with us. My argument with my DH is that if my parents were around, we would see them at least alternate Christmases, sometimes a bit less than this if we are going away. I don't see why they have to be here every Christmas which usually includes Christmas Eve until late Boxing Day. My second, much bigger issue with this is that my DH is not an only child. He has a sister who is one year younger than him, so that makes her mid 40's. She is a fully functioning adult, with a decent job, own house and a long term partner. PIL and SIL take it for granted that she and BF are invited to our house at Christmas. So basically, I am having everyone over at my expense and labour most years. My SIL has never once offered to have PIL for Christmas and I don't think she ever will as she seems to relish the baby of the family role and thinks this excludes her pulling her weight with her parents in their late 70's. Whenever we have gone on holiday they all decide not to bother.
I have told my DH that he needs to tell his sister that from now on it is time to "take turns" to host PIL for Christmas. He doesn't want to say it, but the alternative is me getting really fed up and saying something in anger. Is there an alternative solution? I have tried to change things such as ask them to bring a dessert but they said it was too much hassle so just bought a ready made one from the supermarket.
Who IBU here? I need some tips on how to manage Christmases of the future which is fair to everyone, including me.
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Fedupface · 25/09/2017 12:25
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