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To ask what you do when DP is away?

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SarahH12 · 24/09/2017 19:56

DP is away on business this week. He went today and isn't back until Saturday. I know it probably sounds pathetic but I always feel at a bit of a loss as to what to do when he's away. So far I have visited family, binge watched a short tv series on catch up and cleaned the bathroom. Oh and eaten junk food as I can't bring myself to cook for one this evening.

So... what do you all do when DP is away / did you do pre DC? DSD is with her mum too so no DC to occupy.

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IHateYourCarpet · 24/09/2017 20:01

I always used to stay late at work Blush mainly because I was busy and it was a fab excuse to stay and catch up. I'd see friends if possible.

Other than that, I'd batch cook, deep clean the house, Christmas/birthday shopping ... god I sound dull! Just all the things it's easier to do without DH around.

Hopefully someone will be along soon with more exciting suggestions.

IHateYourCarpet · 24/09/2017 20:02

Oh! Another thought, a really good pamper session without interruptions Grin face mask, bubble bath, glass of wine, Netflix.. you get the idea.

TeaAndBisquits · 24/09/2017 20:03

Pre DC I'd always arrange a meal out with some friends, go to the cinema one evening, watch whatever I fancied on the TV and ate all the things I love that DH isn't too keen on. Hello goats cheese!

Subtlecheese · 24/09/2017 20:03

All of the above. Also read, knit spend way too many hours on the internet.

StarfishSeahorse · 24/09/2017 20:04

Starfish the bed, watch my fave films in peace, have my fave foods/drinks without having to share.
Have friends stay over for company if I get lonely wonders when DP is next away

SunnySomer · 24/09/2017 20:05

My DH is going away while DS is off on a school residential. I was SERIOUSLY cross when I first found out, and now am going to paint the kitchen as I'll have the house entirely to myself for the best part of a week.

MaryShelley1818 · 24/09/2017 20:05

My DP has always worked away, used to be 4nts, now 5nts...I just get on with life tbh!
Go to work, see friends, watch tv, read, music, eat, sleep!
Nothing inspirational unfortunately!

Heratnumber7 · 24/09/2017 20:06

What do you do when he's at home? Can you do the same stuff, but by yourself?

Justdontknow4321 · 24/09/2017 20:08

GO out with friends, meals, night out, cinema
Or have a friend round for a chat, cup of tea & takeaway

Pamper night, do my nails, nice bath, moisturizer, face mask

Watch Netflix, film.. anything I like and my OH doesn't

Work..

crisscrosscranky · 24/09/2017 20:08

DH works away from home 4 nights a week- I just do what I would do if he was here I suppose; cook, clean, watch TV.

If I didn't have DC I'd be in the pub with friends, at the gym or doing shopping when it's quiet!

SarahH12 · 24/09/2017 20:09

See that's the thing, I don't have any local friends. My friends live literally hundreds (and thousands) of miles away. I think thats why I struggle so much as it's literally just me.

I'm glad I'm not the only one that takes full advantage of eating what DP doesn't like! I plan to make something I love and he hates tomorrow - vegetable curry Grin he's one of those people who thinks a curry without meat is just odd whereas I absolutely love it!

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Pollydonia · 24/09/2017 20:23

My dh is away on business next week. Happens once a year. I plan things to do in the evenings , light DIY, sort the house, go to the cinema , start a book ( just got GOT on my Kindle) , meal plan for myself ( bowl of semolina one night , I luffs it Grin)

slbhill42 · 24/09/2017 20:29

I love it when dp is away! But I'm quite a solitary person.

Read, catch up on admin/housework stuff I don't get round to when he's here, enjoy a surface staying empty for more than 2 minutes Wink , watch movies he doesn't like, binge watch tv or play stupid computer games, get a lovely early night and starfish the bed, phone friends I don't speak to as often as I should.... ah, love it! This is making me sad it's so long til his nxt trip Grin

dolphinbbq · 24/09/2017 20:36

My DP is away 3 weeks at a time. I make the most of it by:

  • eating what I like
  • starfishing the bed
  • watching whatever I like on Tv
  • staying late at work
  • long lie at the weekend
  • gym for as long as I like
GirlOnATrainToShite · 24/09/2017 20:39

My OH is in the Navy and is away about 4 months at a time and we have no contact Smile. He lives away during the week too.

I just plan loads of stuff with my friends I have a routine which he actually messes up for me when he is home! Grin

Mulch · 24/09/2017 20:41

Order in Thai food, he hates it

MirandaWest · 24/09/2017 20:43

My DH went away for work today and will be back late Friday night. I have two DC so will have them some of the time and will be working every day (and tomorrow evening) so not really too much time to do anything interesting Grin

Will try and fit in a gym visit or two and eat things that require little preparation

TwitterQueen1 · 24/09/2017 20:45

Have a very personal ball!
Starfish
Not cook (except for the children)
Eat a whole tube of Pringles for dinner
Watch exactly what I want on the TV
Go to the gym for as long as I want
Go into town
Buy a coffee from a coffee shop.
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy

DMCWelshCakes · 24/09/2017 20:45

Enjoy a tidy house and sleep like a starfish!

weeblueberry · 24/09/2017 20:47

DP is away 3/4 nights every fortnight. Normally I binge watch programmes he hates, write, watch romance films and eat very unhealthy food he'd never enjoy. And go to bed at about 9pm which he moans about. Grin

CatsOclock · 24/09/2017 20:50

I would do what you're doing. Lots of girly films and things I'm into which he would moan about. (Grace & Frankie, The Good Wife etc.)

I would also read in bed. For hours! Bliss!

And probably do some kind of decorating or gardening project.

CarlHickbread · 24/09/2017 20:53

Eat stuff like beans on toast/smiley faces/chicken dippers etc. He would recoil in horror if I dished those up to him.

Also watch my geeky crime programmes on Netflix that he hates.

Enjoy my tidy house and neatly folded towels.

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DandelionAndBedrock · 24/09/2017 20:56

Eat things he doesn't consider to be "proper" food.
Long baths.
Early nights.
Blitzing the cleaning/laundry on day 1 so I can relax for the rest of the week.

DP has 2 weeks away coming up and I am going to do footner the second the door closes (he is repulsed by the idea).

Oh, I also have an extra blanket for the bed because I get chilly without him radiating heat.

TrumpsWigmaker · 24/09/2017 21:07

PROS:
Clean bedding for me to starfish across

Order in a curry

Open a bottle of Shiraz

Watch Strictly on catch-up

Light smelly candles

Wake up to a clean and tidy house with no dirty socks on the floor

CONS:
Having to get up to make my own early morning coffee.

Hmmmmmm...

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