I've recently started a job that requires a bit of public speaking. At the very most I would have the opportunity to speak to around 60 people. I don't have to say anything, but often there are points that are unclear which I could clarify but I'm too scared to speak. I whip myself into a panic, my mouth goes dry, my face beetroot and I decide it's not worth the risk of making a show of myself.
But even in smaller meetings I get the same fear. I HATE introducing myself at meetings, one of which I have on Friday and I'm already nervous about the 'would you like to say a few words to introduce yourself' moment which is inevitable.
I know people say that if I spoke it won't be as bad as I think, but it is! The very first time I spoke, about a year ago, in front of about 10 people, I was so nervous my hands were shaking and I stumbled over a few words. I hoped it has seemed worse to me than everyone else, but two of my closest, most friendly colleagues thought it was hilarious and one of them still bangs on about 'can you remember how nervous you were, we could all see your hands shaking!' I've also had comments that I sound angry or curt. I'm neither, I'm just so nervous!
Anyone got any advice? I'd happily try public speaking classes but when I Google them there are pages of professionals saying they're a waste of time. I love my job and I don't often have to speak in front of people, but I want to be able to do it and do it without feeling physically sick for hours beforehand just at the thought.
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NorthandSouth98374 · 20/09/2017 22:28
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