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...to expect DH to be able to pack for DC for holiday?

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LynneDor · 20/09/2017 16:32

DD 7mo and DS 2y. He says he doesn't know what they need. WTF?!

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RedSkyAtNight · 20/09/2017 16:42

Are you a SAHM and do most of the childcare? If so, why should he necessarily realise what they'll need for a prolonged time? If you're not, then why doesn't he know?

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BertrandRussell · 20/09/2017 16:43

How much day to day childcare does he do?

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Akire · 20/09/2017 16:44

Rubbish! He may miscalcute amount of vests, tops, bottoms but if he can pack for himself he can pack for kids.

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Shoxfordian · 20/09/2017 16:45

Doesn't seem like a difficult job for him

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BertieBotts · 20/09/2017 16:48

Yanbu. Tell him to work it out. If he genuinely can't, it's a sign he needs to spend more time with them!

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Gorgosparta · 20/09/2017 16:51

It really depends. Are you a sahp? Does he work alot of hours?

Me and dh (mostly) have both worked. Although both had short stints as sahp. He could pack for the kids. He doesnt. Because i like doing it. Although i get the stuff together and he packs. I hate actually packing, just like picking their clothes. I pile the stuff up, he gets it in the case.

Works for us.

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plantsitter · 20/09/2017 16:53

Nobody is born knowing what a 7 mo and a 2yo need to take on holiday. SAHP or not.

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LynneDor · 20/09/2017 17:01

I'm at home at the moment as on mat leave. He works 4 days and is home one day a week while I do a day long volunteering thing weekly.

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Pallisers · 20/09/2017 17:01

what does being a SAHP have to do with it?

I worked full time as did my husband when the kids were tiny. I still knew how to pack for them - I didn't need the childminder to do it for me.

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SnowBallsAreHere · 20/09/2017 17:04

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BertrandRussell · 20/09/2017 17:04

In those circumstances he should definitely know.

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Believeitornot · 20/09/2017 17:06

Well if you normally do it then it's not fair to all of a sudden dump it on him.

I'm guessing you wouldn't have known what to do without having done it many times before....

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SpringBreak · 20/09/2017 17:06

I asked my dj to pack the dc washbag for our last holiday. He did so, but it wasn't until we arrived on the other side of the world that it became apparent that he had failed to pack it into the suitcase

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Pallisers · 20/09/2017 17:08

In ANY circumstances he should know. It isn't rocket science. If a google interviewer put you in a child's bedroom and asked you to pack for a child who was going on holiday for a week and a fab job in Google depended on it, I bet most people, even childless people, would make a fair fist of it. Clothes for the week, toiletries for the week, including nappies if using, favourite toy, outer clothing. It is amazingly like packing for an any other human really.

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Eolian · 20/09/2017 17:10

Of course he should know what they need, unless he spends no time with them during the week or at weekends. Presumably he sees what they wear regularly, is aware of which are their favourite toys and knows they need nappies/milk/snacks/toothbrush etc. Fgs how hard can it be?

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BertrandRussell · 20/09/2017 17:11

If you had never looked after a nappy wearing child for a day then you probably wouldn't know how many nappies to pack.

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Pallisers · 20/09/2017 17:18

perhaps you mightn't know exactly how many nappies but you'd make a fair guess of maybe 10 to last you until you got to a shop. You'd know to pack SOME nappies anyway. Otherwise those google interviewers might reasonably think you were incapable of any kind of thinking outside of your own direct experience and, forget google, who would hire someone like that?

Not that that is relevant to someone who actually has a nappy-wearing child all of his own.

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Eolian · 20/09/2017 17:25

Never even been in the presence of your own nappy-wearing child for the day though? In any case, either take loads or say "how many nappies for ... days, do you reckon?" Don't say "I have no idea what my own child needs - you do it". Because that makes you look like a useless arse.

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5rivers7hills · 20/09/2017 17:28

What does being a SAHP have to do with it? Do working parents loose the ability to do basic care of their own children?

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Pallisers · 20/09/2017 17:30

I'm guessing you wouldn't have known what to do without having done it many times before....

Huh? So then how did she do it the first time? How about Daddy also just does it many times so he can too discover the secret of packing.

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AppleAndBlackberry · 20/09/2017 17:37

I'm wondering if your DH is actually just worried that you'll be cross if he doesn't bring enough t-shirts/ matching outfits/ the right toys etc? So more of a "I don't know what you will want to take for them" than "I don't know what the children will need"?

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Gorgosparta · 20/09/2017 17:40

holiday for a week and a fab job in Google depended on it,

I work for google as one of the parts of my job. You are really over estimating us Wink

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EamonnWright · 20/09/2017 17:41

He maybe just doesn't want to get it wrong and get a tongue lashing.

Would love to be going on today Sad

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Cambionome · 20/09/2017 17:47

Oh ffs!!! Of course he ought to be able to do it.

Leave it to him -if he gets it wrong he'll know for next time.

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DoormatBob · 20/09/2017 17:49

It's better you are upset now rather than on holiday. Poor guy is in a no win situation.

I would pack half of what DW would pack and be fine on holiday but she'd kick off then bring home mostly in work unused stuff.

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