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RantyMare Wed 20-Sep-17 15:41:01

Whether you're already married or not?

What would your dream day be like? Not necessarily interested in stories of stereotypical dream weddings, but just what your ideal day would be, what would you change (if anything) ?

I'm being silly really. I have never wanted to BE married, but recently I've had a little daydream to myself about what my wedding would be like, what I'd wear, who'd be there (including now sadly deceased people).

I don't think I'll ever even be able to marry really.

I would have all my family and friends there, simple registry, then a band, lots of vegan food and booze at my (late) Grandmother's, who had a really lovely huge garden. The sun would be out and my family and friends would all be happy!

Would anyone like to feed my daydream with theirs smile

isseywithcats Wed 20-Sep-17 15:43:34

mine would be on a beach in kenya with my dad still alive and able to walk me up the aisle, sadly he died when i was nine so never got to do this, with a few close friends and family followed by a simple meal with coctails

DeadDoorpost Wed 20-Sep-17 15:46:12

Hire a better photographer (ours was a mistake) a different dress and invite less people. Maybe shout my mother down after emotionally blackmailing me...

Ttbb Wed 20-Sep-17 15:59:23

Short appointment at the registrars office followed by Netflix and take out. Not a fan of weddings in the least. Wouldn't voluntarily have another if I could avoid it.

Carley27 Wed 20-Sep-17 16:04:33

The dream for me was to get married while all my grandparents were still alive/able to attend. We got married last year and they were all there smile

weeblueberry Wed 20-Sep-17 16:10:42

Agree with Ttbb. Registry office with our parents and the kids then pub lunch and early night with fresh sheets.

You couldn't pay me to have a wedding with lots of people there.

Sunnysidegold Wed 20-Sep-17 16:14:32

I really enjoyed my wedding and wouldn't change much.i suppose I would change our photographer- too much time on posed pictures and not as much documentary style pics. I would change my dress.im not too fussed about clothes and basically picked the third dress I tried on.it was nice but a big full vvery weddingy thing. I would rather wear a fifties style fitted waist dress, style bridal looking.in my dream wedding I would remember that I'd see people at breakfast the day after and pack something nicer than the jeans and t shirt I packed.maybe I care more about clothes the. I thought!

noeffingidea Wed 20-Sep-17 16:16:03

Visit to the registry office dressed in normal clothes, with only our children as guests. Followed by a meal and a few drinks at the pub then home.

Bambamber Wed 20-Sep-17 16:17:39

I wish all our families would have been able to join us when we got married abroad. Oh and wish I'd worn my hair different

NYConcreteJungle Wed 20-Sep-17 16:18:05

Simple service, simple meal with close family, everyone go home after the meal and an evening of lovemaking.

Sayyouwill Wed 20-Sep-17 16:23:43

Think the last scene in Runaway Bride. On a hill top, in the sun, only my nearest and dearest, wearing a simple but beautiful dress, flowers everywhere.

Evening do would be a huge party with any and everyone who wanted to come. Very relaxed, preferably a hog roast and a fire pit somewhere, maybe a beach party? Aww I'm liking this more and more!!

MrsTerryPratchett Wed 20-Sep-17 16:27:58

I've had two.

www.pelicaneyesresort.com/copia-de-san-juan-del-sur That would be perfect now. I wouldn't expect many people to come if I divorced DH and married someone else!

HerRoyalChocolateBunny Wed 20-Sep-17 16:31:26

I liked my wedding, but I hardly knew any of the people at it! I had 3 people on 'my side' and 60 or so from DH's side. We were marrying in DH's home country. It was pretty nice though.

If I did it again- it would have been winter wedding with snow.... none of that dreary grey slushy type of snow, but fresh and crisp snow. i would be wearing a faux fur lined and white velvet cape and we would have our wedding breakfast in a cosy traditional English pub.

RiversrunWoodville Wed 20-Sep-17 16:32:08

I'll come to yours op I'm veggie and weddings are hard!!!
Mine would be similar to what we actually had Gretna Green only 10 people in total although I wish my bfs now exh wasn't there as he was so miserable I'd swap him out for my other friend who was unable to come grin and make myself well on the day

HerRoyalChocolateBunny Wed 20-Sep-17 16:33:11

OR.... I would have a wedding I went to a few years ago.... in the late summer, in a field, afternoon tea with loads of little cakes and sandwiches. Favours were packets of english cottage garden seeds.

Loved it.

corythatwas Wed 20-Sep-17 16:35:01

Funnily enough, all those years ago I think my dream probably would have been the simple jolly low-cost wedding so favoured by MNers. We went with the big posh evening-wear-and-speeches do because it meant something to other family members.

But looking back it was a very, very happy day. I'd probably just want to go back and do it all over again, except I can't afford it. We had waited a long time, I was happy, dh was happy, everybody was happy for us, and I just enjoyed going with the flow.

Perhaps it was all the better because I hadn't chosen the details so I was far less invested in every single moment being right. All I really cared about was what it represented and that other people were happy for us.

Ineedmorelemonpledge Wed 20-Sep-17 16:35:18

Vegas. Fly the whole (small) family out and have a crazy mad time with a bungalow each in the grounds of Caesars or MGM.

Wear the dress Megan Fox wore to the terminator premier and kick ass heels.

Honeymoon in Hawaii.

It would be my second wedding - first was alone on beach in Barbados. It was so sad and disappointing it became one of the most miserable memories of my life.

Six weeks until the final divorce hearing though!

hellsbellsmelons Wed 20-Sep-17 16:35:39

Small short registry office ceremony.
Then a nice meal out and then partying for the younger people.
Or a nice pub meal and get a band on that night and have a good old drink and boogie.

Or... On a beach just a few of us making and big holiday of it all.

RantyMare Wed 20-Sep-17 16:40:24

Thank you for all the replies, I'm really enjoying reading them smile nice to see how so many of us have different ideas smile

clairethewitch70 Wed 20-Sep-17 16:43:56

Handfasting - The Venue - The Chalice Well in Glastonbury, at sunrise on Beltane.
Pampering at Charlton House Spa in Somerset. Immediate family only. Forest theme cake, green medieval style dress, fresh flowers and a besom. Aston Martin car to get there.

clairethewitch70 Wed 20-Sep-17 16:45:41

This dress

NYConcreteJungle Wed 20-Sep-17 16:46:21

Very Lord of the rings.

NoWittyNamesAvailable Wed 20-Sep-17 16:47:01

My dream wedding is similar to what we are getting in a few weeks with one exception.

Church wedding, no formal sit down meal afterwards but buffet. And then run straight through to the evening with a disco and everyone enjoying themselves. It means we can have everyone there for the whole thing rather than separate day/night guests. The only thing i would do differently is make sure we could afford to provide all the drinks for everyone all day. We cant afford to, so have made sure the place we have chosen is cheap for drinks and we have covered the cost of all childrens drinks, and drinks for toasting. Our family and friends however do not expect ti be provided with drinks so that helps ease the guilt slightly.

peachgreen Wed 20-Sep-17 16:48:00

Same as my actual wedding... early December, 28 of our nearest and dearest, tiny chapel lit by candlelight, married by beloved DFIL, beautiful vows we wrote ourselves (everybody cried), delicious five-course (!) meal in an amazing restaurant that nobody could stop raving about weeks later, loads of lovely Prosecco, whisky sat round the fire - only with a few tweaks:

- Different dress - I wore the one my mum loved because she said the one I loved made my arms look fat hmm and I'm gutted now because looking back at photos of me trying it on, it was definitely The One
- Hire a better photographer and spend less time taking photos - we missed the amazing mince pies and hot chocolate around the Christmas tree that DSIL had arranged!
- Not invite one particular guest (I had my reservations beforehand and I was proven right, he was v. unpleasant and has been ever since)
- Not have chest infections (both me and DH were so ill!)
- Not have to move countries 2 weeks later
- Not to end the night locked out of our hotel in the rain - I was sheltering in a gazebo with my dress hitched up to my knees while my husband rang the night porter, meaning the first time he ever said "my wife" was in the sentence "my wife is in the gazebo"!

Otherwise it was an absolutely perfect day and I adored every minute. Feel so lucky. The dress is really the only thing that still bothers me a bit!

peachgreen Wed 20-Sep-17 16:48:52

Oh and then a week later we had a huge party in a pub for all our pals with tons of booze, amazing food, mountains of cake and lots of dancing. Also fantastic.

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