Ex staying at mine and being a dick

[missladybird]

My ex is currently staying at my house while he's back from working abroad. He's absolutely useless with money and also can't handle the responsibility of being a father so he decided to fuck off and tried covering it up as 'saving money' for dd's future.

He's staying at mine to save money and I stupidly agreed. He's rude, lazy, controlling and just an absolute nightmare to be around. I hate him.

I also stupidly agreed to take dd to visit him in the country where he works next year. He paid for the flights and currently no accommodation has been booked.

Aibu to not go? I know for a fact he'll say I'm putting myself before dd and how shed love going to visit him blah blah blah but why should I put myself through it for the sake of a free holiday in the sun?

He's an absolute dick and I forgot how much so while he was away.

[Ellendegeneres]

Kick him out! His lodgings, his responsibility

[MistressDeeCee]

All this for an Ex? Why?! Whats he doing in your home why didn't you decline request? He'd have found somewhere else if he'd had to. Kick him out and no, don't go abroad. You aren't a couple any longer and its time to move on. Having a child with someone doesn't mean you have to be there for and take on all their crisis. Its no way to live life. He is no longer your partner - get that through your head

[missladybird]

He convinced me that it's what would be best for dd and I stupidly believed him. I'm going to ask him to leave but I know he's going to kick off.

[MistressDeeCee]

Get someone to be with you whilst you tell him to leave. Get advice from Victim Support etc before you tell him then. Its ridiculous an Ex or anybody can control you in this way and no way should you be living with someone you sound to be scared of. Its not working, ask him to leave

[missladybird]

It is ridiculous and I feel pathetic. I feel so much hate towards him right now, I have no idea how he gets under my skin so much. Life is so much better when he fucks off yo the other side of the world

[Hissy]

Been there, done that.

But I am old and knew I'd never allow all the wild horses in the world to drag me back to the shit hole he lives in...

You don't have to go, you don't have to have him there

If he kicks off, call the police on 999

[AngelsSins]

Fuck that OP! First job, get him the hell out. He's not even remotely your responsibility.

As for going abroad, is this because he wants you there to do all the shit work with DD and he can just do the fun stuff? Why doesn't he come back to the UK to visit his daughter? It sounds like he's invested in staying in YOUR life, don't let that happen.