Me and my partner have been together 3 years and have 1 son who is 2. He's always been fairly controlling and I've always let it slide but lately it's got to me more and more to the point where I can't see a way out and spend most of my time crying.
He always has a problem with me being on my phone and will go on and on about it, if I'm to go out with friends he will be weird about it and theirs no way I'd be able to go on a night out without being accused of going to do all sorts so I just choose not to as it's not worth the hassle and rarely see friends. He picks at every little thing that I do and is always making an argument over nothing. He's never been physical but has smashed up lots of my things including an iPad, phone, vape etc and then dosnt offer to pay to repair it.
I'm constantly walking on egg shells and it has got to the point where for the millionth time I've said I want him to leave and he just turns around and says the only reason I want to be single is so I can sleep around (no idea where he gets that from as I'm not like that). He'll then try and talk me round and I give in because I can't be bothered to deal with the nastiness that comes out of his mouth.
He's been off work since last week and all we've done is argue and scream at each other and we just can't be together for long periods which dosnt really make sense as we're meant to be in a relationship. I've tried to stay out of his way and if he's down stairs il be upstairs but he will follow me around the house trying to get a rise out of me and then call me childish when I bite back.
This evening I've told him exactly how I feel and how I think he's abusive and how every day is like walking on egg shells and he's made out like I'm a liar and making it all up in my head when I know for a fact I'm not. I am leaving him but I just need to know that I'm not the crazy one for thinking all of that behaviour is avusive, theirs lots of other examples of his controlling behaviour as well but I'd be here all day
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Leasa21 · 19/09/2017 19:56
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