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AIBU thinking this name is not too posh

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Loopyaboutmy2boys Mon 18-Sep-17 21:36:28

So we are expecting a baby girl soon and can't agree on names. I really like Tabitha Lily but DH thinks it is very posh and that you can't use a name like that unless you have a really posh sounding surname. I disagree and think that it's a pretty name and that whilst it's not as commonly used like Isla and Olivia etc just because it's not as popular it's doesn't mean it's as posh as he thinks. He also thinks she will be embarrassed when she is older. And keeps fixating on her ending up being called Tabby and risking being bullied, even though she could always stick with the full name of Tabitha, plenty of women I know don't have nicknames so it's not like she has to have one, plus we live in a nice area and there are plenty of posher names in use in the school and the area in general. (Not a private school, just lucky to be in a nice area, not trying to sound snobbish just outlining our situation, it's so nice and pretty an area that it's a major tourist hotspot) Our existing children use their full names so her using her full name isn't an unreasonable expectation.

Are there any Tabitha's out there? Do you regret your name or like it?

Or to anyone else, do you think it's an ok name? I've tried looking for other names but I just love this and its got under my skin and I just can't find something else I remotely like.

ComingUpTrumps Mon 18-Sep-17 21:37:39

I love the name Tabitha! Go for it OP smile Tabitha Lily sounds very pretty as well.

TrustingTrudie Mon 18-Sep-17 21:38:31

The lily doesn't go well imo but I like tabitha

Oly5 Mon 18-Sep-17 21:39:00

I know a few Tabitha's and it's never shortened to Tabby

dudsville Mon 18-Sep-17 21:39:02

You have to find something you agree on but fwiw I don't think it's "too posh". Perspective is everything with this though and you have to define what that means to you.

BouncyFlouncy Mon 18-Sep-17 21:40:19

I have a cousin named Tabitha, we're now in our 30's but she has always been known as 'Taffy' or 'Taff'. Not exactly what you asked as it's not my own name, but just a different nickname that might develop you may not have been aware of. Personally I think Tabitha is lovely.

arethereanyleftatall Mon 18-Sep-17 21:40:42

I think Tabitha can be a posh name, but it's a normal name too. I like it.
I don't like the lily addition to be honest, though at least if you add it, the name is no longer posh.

BouncyFlouncy Mon 18-Sep-17 21:41:09

Btw she/we are defintely not posh!

Redglitter Mon 18-Sep-17 21:42:48

Not sure Lily goes with it but I love Tabitha as a name.

As for it being shortened that doesn't necessarily follow. My name has a very obvious abbreviation but it was never ever shortened when I was at school

stopfuckingshoutingatme Mon 18-Sep-17 21:43:23

Love Tabitha and don't like Lily grin

TestingTestingWonTooFree Mon 18-Sep-17 21:45:34

I know a 7 year old Tabitha nn Tabby and like the name. I don't think Lily is at all posh anymore.

SaucyJack Mon 18-Sep-17 21:46:11

I think it's quite mainstream these days in terms of poshness. On a par with Florence or Eleanor.

It'll always be common at your local vets tho. I have a Tabitha meself. I didn't name her tho- I wouldn't have the creative flair to think up a name like that for a tabby girl.

steff13 Mon 18-Sep-17 21:48:12

I like Tabitha and Lily, but I don't like Lily with Tabitha. I like Elizabeth with Tabitha, but that's a lot of name.

My name is Stephanie, and my husband is the only one who calls me Steph, no one else does. We don't really do nicknames in our family.

Loopyaboutmy2boys Mon 18-Sep-17 21:48:21

(Just to clarify Lily would be the middle name, so in normal life it would be Tabitha followed by the surname)

PovertyJetset Mon 18-Sep-17 21:48:55

I love that name and it was on our short list. I know a tabby and she is lovely.

Voice0fReason Mon 18-Sep-17 21:50:07

Tabitha is a lovely name but it will get shortened to Tabby or Tabs
Lily is fine for a middle name

Witsender Mon 18-Sep-17 21:51:25

I don't think it is a posh name at all.

It is a lovely name though, very pretty. I'm not sure about the Lily though

Gaggleofgirls Mon 18-Sep-17 21:51:53

I love the name but also have a husband who ruled it out as being too posh!

Pennysnow Mon 18-Sep-17 21:53:09

Doesn't sound posh to me.

Will get shortened to Tabby though.

Not sure about Tabitha Lily.

craftyfox48 Mon 18-Sep-17 21:54:51

Tabitha is definitely not considerered posh in my area. It's just largely unused. It's not a name that would attract bullies IMO.

It's not a very 'current', modern name if that's what you're after.

Also, on the recent series of The Voice Kids, they was a teenage girl contestant named Tabby.

ALittleMop Mon 18-Sep-17 21:55:07

Its not so posh
I know a couple of grown up Tabithas - one is posh. and is shortened to Tabs
I like it but I think its a bit of a gobful with Lily.

craftyfox48 Mon 18-Sep-17 21:55:31

I'm also not sure about Tabitha Lily- don't think it flows well

HeteronormativeHaybales Mon 18-Sep-17 21:55:57

I don't think Tabitha's posh. It's nice, not my personal cup of tea, but nice.

MaroonPencil Mon 18-Sep-17 21:56:13

I don't think it's too posh. Nor do I think it will get shortened to Tabby. Tab maybe.

When we were choosing names, DH claimed the name Sam was too posh confused

Kintan Mon 18-Sep-17 21:56:39

I love it! But if your DH really doesn't like it then it's not worth trying to convince him if it's not to his taste. You'll have to find a name you both agree on unfortunately!

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