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AIBU?

Lost my best friend over my period!!

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Forheavenssake · 26/08/2017 11:57

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

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Papafran · 26/08/2017 12:00

She doesn't sound like a friend to be honest. Poor you, that is horrible.

MimsyFluff · 26/08/2017 12:00

YANBU! Who needs enemies when you have friends like her! I wouldn't want my jacket to be ruined but would happily hand it over to you.

PeaFaceMcgee · 26/08/2017 12:01

She's a shit. At least you know now. Don't contact her again x

Smellyoulateralligater · 26/08/2017 12:01

That was so mean of her. Bin her forever. Even if it was the most expensive jacket in the world it was horrible that she s didn't help you

PaganGoddessBrigid · 26/08/2017 12:02

you poor thing. I had a horrible experience on a bus once. A man in a beige trench coat told me to ''move in'' and I wouldn't and he said ''move IN!'' so I did and he sat in my leak. Awful. And I didn't know him.

I would feel very let down by a friend who refused to lend me a jacket to protect me from unnecessary embarrassment.

fairgame84 · 26/08/2017 12:02

YANBU
I can't believe she didn't help you. She's not worth having as a friend.

Twoweekcruise · 26/08/2017 12:02

What a bitch.

CatsRule · 26/08/2017 12:02

You wouldn't have had to ask a friend, it would have been offered before the need to ask!

Yanbu!

Winterview · 26/08/2017 12:03

Depends on the jacket- if it was cream silk any stain would be hard to get out. A dark colour and she was BVU!

Blodplod · 26/08/2017 12:03

The thing is, if that happened to a friend of mine I know I would instantly say, 'here, have my jacket, tie it round your waist'. So you could avoid any shame and embarrassment.. I really don't get on here why so many people's friends wouldn't help them out in the most basic of situations!! That behaviour certainly wouldn't endear me to that so called 'friend' in the future... just last week I parked in a public car park.. across the way was a lady waiting by her car with an AA man trying to fix her broken down car.. she had white trousers on with a very large and very noticeable great big brown stain all the way down the inside of one leg. A complete stranger but I went up to her and offered her my scarf to tie round her waist. She was so grateful and it was a bloody expensive White Company scarf.. anything to alleviate her very obvious embarrassment..

BarbaraOcumbungles · 26/08/2017 12:03

What an absolute cow! You're better off without people like that if your life .

chips4teaplease · 26/08/2017 12:04

We're having a lot of leakage on MN at the moment.

QueenNefertitty · 26/08/2017 12:04

She is no friend. If she was a friend, she'd have given you the jacket, sent you on your way, ordered you a double gin while you were sorting yourself out, and been there to console you on your return.

Fuck that for fake friendship.

Sorry about your trousers too!

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 26/08/2017 12:05

You wanted it to cover yourself, what did she think you was going to use her jacket to clean yourself up or something.

Blood is easy enough to get out, persil (if i remember rightly) even advertises removal of blood from clothing.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 26/08/2017 12:05

It would have made more sense to borrow her coat to wear as a coat and to promise not to sit down until you had cleaned up. You could even , if the coat was long enough, have taken off the stained garments and cleaned up to avoid staining the coat.

Tying a jacket round your waist seems an odd solution. I would have offered my coat but not my jacket.

NoCapes · 26/08/2017 12:06

You didn't lose your best friend over your period
You found out someone you thought was a friend actually wasn't and was actually a total bitch
If she was a real friend she'd have tied the thing round your waist and walked really close behind you before you could've even asked

MrTrebus · 26/08/2017 12:06

She is not a friend. Forget her don't engage any further. If she comes to her senses and comes back to you apologising profusely then you can rethink things but for now she sounds like a horrible person.

trinity0097 · 26/08/2017 12:06

If you lived down the road I would have told you to go wait in the loos and gone and got you a change of clothes, or shielded you on your way out with whatever I had available.

She doesn't sound like someone you would want as a friend anyway!

NerrSnerr · 26/08/2017 12:08

She's no friend. If her coat was a £5000 silk coat she'd have helped you come up with a plan (asking behind bar to borrow a lost property coat or something)

Papafran · 26/08/2017 12:08

Even if any blood did get on the jacket/coat, it can easily be washed out or even dry cleaned if need be. The OP wasn't asking to use the jacket as a sanitary towel, just a cover-up.

Forheavenssake · 26/08/2017 12:08

Omg the relief that I'm not seen as being unreasonable!
I was devastated tbh,and also humiliated.it was a black light weight jacket from marks and spencer not sure of the price.
I'm upset as she's my closest friend and she's never been cruel like that before I have no idea why she wanted me to sink like that it's hurt my feelings.

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 26/08/2017 12:08

Cut off! So even if you did get a bit on her jacket, would of been easy enough to wash it out.

SnickersWasAHorse · 26/08/2017 12:08

If you have suddenly flooded that much without any previous warning, and early then it might be worth seeing a doctor.

Aeroflotgirl · 26/08/2017 12:09

YOu lost somebody who was never a friend, poor you love. I would have tried my best to help you any good friend would. She could have her jacket dry cleaned or you could have helped pay for it to be, instead she let you be humiliated like that. Not a friend in my book.

SistersOfPercy · 26/08/2017 12:10

If you only lived down the road she could have taken the key and fetched you a change of clothing.
She's no friend.

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