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Who should have been allowed to use the shower first? DH or DD???

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LastChristmas100 Wed 23-Aug-17 23:54:24

DH has been visiting family this evening (a 2 hour drive away) and picked up DD from work on the way home (she's 18 and finishes at 11pm) they both got in very tired. DD works in a supermarket doing shelves, DH has had a long drive home. He pays the bills, who should have got it first?

ladygracie Wed 23-Aug-17 23:55:11

Who has to get up first in the morning?

fabulousathome Wed 23-Aug-17 23:55:38

DH because he drove her home.

GreenTulips Wed 23-Aug-17 23:56:26

Showers are are 2 mins - unless hair washing is needed

DD more than likely to take longer so DH first as quicker DD after as takes much longer

LastChristmas100 Wed 23-Aug-17 23:57:24

Neither have to be up first tomorrow. DD is on summer holidays and DH no longer works (sold business).

Cherrytart6 Wed 23-Aug-17 23:57:37

What stays up later and who gets up earlier?

Viviennemary Wed 23-Aug-17 23:58:07

Whoever would be the quickest. But age before youth as well.

LovingLola Wed 23-Aug-17 23:58:47

In our house dh would always go first. He is in and out of the shower in 5 minutes. Then dd (17) can go in for as long as she likes! No issue.

YogiYoni Wed 23-Aug-17 23:59:06

They argued about this? The shower is not the problem...

BackieJerkhart Wed 23-Aug-17 23:59:28

Whoever baggsied it obv grin

SprinklesandIcecream Wed 23-Aug-17 23:59:31

Whoever is quickest.

youhaveafacefortheradio Wed 23-Aug-17 23:59:31

Initially I thought DD as she'd been working but I'm thinking DH as he'd most likely be quicker.

LastChristmas100 Thu 24-Aug-17 00:05:11

Well, not sure if it was an argument but DH said he was going to be having a shower when he gets in and DD said no because she always has one as soon as she gets in from work and he said no she wouldn't even have a shower of it wasn't for him and then she said if you're really quick you can have one and he didn't say thank you so she moaned a bit and he said he doesn't need to say thank you because he should have got it anyway........

GreenTulips Thu 24-Aug-17 00:06:32

I think you need to switch off and ignore the toddlers .....

Crispbutty Thu 24-Aug-17 00:11:58

One of them could probably have had a quick shower in the time it took for them to bicker about it!

BlackeyedSusan Thu 24-Aug-17 00:13:38

you. that'd larn 'em

whoever is quickest,
whoever is dirtiest.
whoever needs it most. otherwise take turns.

GabsAlot Thu 24-Aug-17 00:16:45

how old is your dh 12 cant he just let her do it shes prob knackred

2 hour drive isnt that long u dont need a shower to recover

TheSockGoblin Thu 24-Aug-17 00:20:49

omg your DH sounds like a bloody child.

Penelopeg Thu 24-Aug-17 00:23:40

There is no correct answer based on who has been doing what but IMO the daughter should offer her dad the shower first.

Merida83 Thu 24-Aug-17 00:24:44

i'd say he's the parent, he's done a long drive twice, he's gone out his way to pick her up, he pays the bills and most likely will be quicker so he gets to go first!

Babymamamama Thu 24-Aug-17 00:26:30

Your dh should as he/you? pays the bills. When your dd gets her own place she can shower whenever she likes.

BlackStars Thu 24-Aug-17 00:28:28

More than one bathroom - works for us.

CatchingBabies Thu 24-Aug-17 00:29:48

Your DH. He is most likely going to be quicker and DD should respect her parents enough to let them go first.

melj1213 Thu 24-Aug-17 00:32:25

Honestly I'd have let your DD have it ... purely on a practical level.

She has been at work all day and stacking shelves is not an easy job so it often leaves you sweaty and dirty I've even found cobwebs in my hair after dealing with some pallets in a far corner of our warehouse . I work in a supermarket (thankfully I now work in customer services not shelf stacking so don't have to get my hands dirty quite so literally any more) and still the first thing I do when I get home is have a shower so that I can get out of my uniform, shower and then get into my PJs/casual clothes and I feel like I can relax. If your DD had to wait for her dad to shower she's going to be sitting in her uniform/work clothes unable to really relax until she can shower and change.

Your DH has had a long drive ... that is neither strenuous or taxing and therefore I doubt it has left him sweaty and dirty so he could have waited an extra 20 minutes so his DD could get out of her work stuff?

GreatFuckability Thu 24-Aug-17 00:38:30

your DD. she's been working. he drove for a bit. not even comparable imo.

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