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Selling something that I gave for free

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Wilberforce2 Wed 23-Aug-17 21:05:19

Just been on Fb and a family member has shared a link from a selling site to a really nice piece of furniture that I gave them last year. Furniture was hardly used but when my step son moved in it wasn't big enough so I gave it to family member and we bought a new one. They now obviously don't want it anymore and are selling it for £100, I don't expect any of the money because if I wanted money I would have sold it but I can't help thinking you shouldn't sell something that someone gave to you for free? I would have preferred her to give it away to someone else or to charity.

AIBU or not?!

x2boys Wed 23-Aug-17 21:07:14

Well it's a bit rude but if you gave it to them it's there's now to do with what they want surely

DodgyGround Wed 23-Aug-17 21:09:40

I've always been prepared to assume that a gift means it's no longer mine. So I can't say what they do with it.

If I'm not prepared for that, then I don't give it in the first place.

JustHereForThePooStories Wed 23-Aug-17 21:10:18

YABU. It's theirs and they can do what they want with it.

inlectorecumbit Wed 23-Aug-17 21:14:07

Contact them and say that as they have no longer any use for it can you have it back... Then sell it yourself.

WanderingTrolley1 Wed 23-Aug-17 21:16:45

It does seem a bit off to me.

SuburbanRhonda Wed 23-Aug-17 21:19:19

Perhaps they're of the view that since you gave it to them, it's - you know - theirs?

Uokbing Wed 23-Aug-17 21:20:25

Technically i guess you gave it to them as a gift so it is theirs to do as they please.

But really......who the fuck does this? So cheeky!

Tilapia Wed 23-Aug-17 21:24:18

It does seem a bit cheeky! For a small item I'd say YABU, but a £100 item of furniture is different.

Wilberforce2 Wed 23-Aug-17 21:24:33

Yes technically it is theirs as I gave it to them but it's bloody cheeky, I just wouldn't have the front to make money from something someone gave me.

Maybe it's just me!

NataliaOsipova Wed 23-Aug-17 21:25:49

Agree with Uokbing. Technically it's theirs, but it's just not in the right spirit.

StillDrivingMeBonkers Wed 23-Aug-17 21:26:04

Perhaps they need the money?

NotTheCoolMum Wed 23-Aug-17 21:27:28

Rude. Ask for it back

TenForward82 Wed 23-Aug-17 21:28:13


coddiwomple Wed 23-Aug-17 21:29:21

well, it's theirs now, I can't see the problem. Would you prefer that they throw it away? They did you a favour by taking it away from your hands, they no longer need it, so it's fair to sell it.

I really don't understand why it's cheeky.

DramaAlpaca Wed 23-Aug-17 21:29:41

Not just you. My SIL did something similar, selling something on FB that I'd given her & I wasn't impressed. I never said anything, but I thought it was cheeky.

PacificDogwod Wed 23-Aug-17 21:30:36


You gave it away, I presume without any conditions attached, it is no longer yours.
It is theirs, to dispose of as they see fit.

nina2b Wed 23-Aug-17 21:30:52

It is rude. If people cannot understand that, they are perhaps likely to do the same.

MrsTrebus Wed 23-Aug-17 21:31:17

Someone did this to me. She asked for the items as we wade donating them (and a lot of other stuff) to a flooding charity so we gave her them and dropped them at her house then she sold them! I never felt the same about our friendship and let it fade out. I recently found out she did the same with gig tickets to another friend.

MikeUniformMike Wed 23-Aug-17 21:31:41

Maybe they need the money.

HerOtherHalf Wed 23-Aug-17 21:32:51

Would you be happier if they just sent it to landfill?

coddiwomple Wed 23-Aug-17 21:33:30

why is it rude? What are you supposed to do with the gifted items? Give them back (and offend whoever gave them away?) Bin them (how wasteful)

I think it's completely different if someone ask for a specific item, or if they are offered something.

Barbiessharpfeet Wed 23-Aug-17 21:34:32

Yabu. Once it's gifted it's not your concern anymore. It's strange to think otherwise.

PacificDogwod Wed 23-Aug-17 21:34:38

I really don't get how this is 'cheeky' confused

highinthesky Wed 23-Aug-17 21:34:49

I think it's bad karma to profit from anything given as a kind gesture.

It's the ultimate slap in the face, so don't bother to gift that family member again!

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