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AIBU?

To the whole family don't need to go to the hospital for a broken arm?

64 replies

Herculesfan · 23/08/2017 20:39

My (adult) niece has broken her arm, quite badly she is having surgery tomorrow. Her sister was supposed to be babysitting for me this evening but has cancelled as the whole family (mum Dad sister brother) are at the hospital with her....

Am I unreasonable to think the whole family don't need to be there and they are probably just driving everyone else in the ward mad?

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GeillisTheWitch · 23/08/2017 20:41

Doesn't the hospital have set visiting hours?

Snausage · 23/08/2017 20:42

Your pissed off because your niece has decided to visit her sister, who's broken her arm so badly she's been hospitalised, rather than babysit for you?

That's nice.

Snausage · 23/08/2017 20:43

You're*

Cherrytart6 · 23/08/2017 20:43

How crazy!

Ilovecoleslaw · 23/08/2017 20:44

YANBU. So unnecessary unless their relative is extremely ill.
Plus visiting time usually stops at 8ish

PinkSnowAndStars · 23/08/2017 20:44

Yanbu - happens in A&E all the time.

We have a small waiting room too - my favourite day was when the site manager went out and kicked the non patients out the chairs because real patients were sitting on the flood. 😬🙄.

It doesn't take 6 mates to come with you on a Friday night because you were so drunk you punched a window either.

People seem to love a day trip out to the hospital.

Herculesfan · 23/08/2017 20:45

I'm not actually annoyed about the babysitting, it meant skipping an exercise class and getting a Chinese instead. Not exactly a hardship. I just think that amount of people visiting when they live together and saw her earlier today is a bit much and wondering if I'm a bit skewed in my thinking.

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Herculesfan · 23/08/2017 20:46

To be fair I'm only just getting around to posting they were visiting at about 6 I think. Babysitting was 6.30 so I assume they're gone home now

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OuchBollocks · 23/08/2017 20:46

If she's in as much pain as I was after getting my leg pinned she won't thank them for being there, she'll want them to fuck off and leave her in peace with the morphine

coddiwomple · 23/08/2017 20:47

as she is an adult, YANBU

Whole family displays like that are cringing, and an absolute nuisance for everyone else if there's a communal ward.

DancesWithOtters · 23/08/2017 21:05

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Butterymuffin · 23/08/2017 21:07

I've seen this happen loads when at the hospital with DC. Both parents there with other kids - why doesn't one bring patient in and one stay home with siblings? It does make the experience worse for everyone else, too. Ridiculous if the patient is an adult.

coddiwomple · 23/08/2017 21:10

I have more sympathy for entire families with a young child, when the mother doesn't drive and wants to stay with her child. It's not ideal, but I can understand not everyone can drop the other kids with friends with no notice.

Ceto · 23/08/2017 21:11

You do get the distinct feeling in A&E that for some families it's all a highly enjoyable outing. Last time I went I was on my own, and I felt distinctly odd-one-out.

Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 23/08/2017 21:14

I think it's quite scary/unsettling when someone you love is in hospital unexpectedly and requiring surgery. Bit different if planned. I can understand the urge to be with them.

Mrscropley · 23/08/2017 21:14

Bit like families who camp out in the labour ward. .
Nuts.

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 23/08/2017 21:16

I visit A&E fairly frequently and it does seem to happen a lot.

I'm quite blasé now so I never know if it's just me being unfeeling, but I do find it a bit much.

It's understandable if the person is seriously ill or you don't know what is wrong. But for a broken arm or whatever, surely it needs one person to help carry things/keep them company etc.

I also don't understand why people voluntarily bring young children with them. Obviously it's unavoidable sometimes. But when there's several adults loitering, surely it would be better for one of them to look after the child at home. It just ends up with bored children being disruptive to other patients and staff, and can't be very restful for the relative who is actually unwell or injured.

NonnoMum · 23/08/2017 21:22

I agree OP.

BlackStars · 23/08/2017 21:22

Or the grown adults who seem to need others at their GP appointments or the family outing to the supermarket.........

LadyinCement · 23/08/2017 21:29

When dn gave birth, seven family members went too. I think people like that are absolutely oblivious and self-obsessed. They don't notice if they're causing a nuisance or making a spectacle of themselves.

seafoodeatit · 23/08/2017 21:32

@BlackStars people have chaperones go with them to medical appointments for a large number of reasons.

kooshbin · 23/08/2017 21:32

I think some people get caught up in the "drama".

Yes, it can be a bit scary when a member of the family breaks an arm in an accident, but that's rarely life-threatening, and certainly isn't a spectator sport.

On the other hand, stoicism doesn't seem to be prevalent these days - we all have to be seen to be doing something about .

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luckylucky24 · 23/08/2017 21:33

Last time I went to A&E there was a whole family there. Mum, dad, gran, daughter and their (6 yr old ish) son who was swinging on the sign and turned off the machine that calls out your number. No one batted an eye lid and I had to turn the machine back on myself. I don't work in a hospital! It was late on a school night too. I really doubt they all needed to be there.

KirstyLaura · 23/08/2017 21:35

I don't think YABU, wards often have a 2 person limit at the bed space too so visiting all together is not even practical. It's a bit OTT I think.

woodpecker2 · 23/08/2017 21:37

Last time I was in for dental surgery there was a notice requesting only patients need to wait for appointments as there is not room in the waiting room.

I don't understand group outings for things like swimming lessons either. 3 generations used to go to ours and I never worked out if it kid, mother gran or 2 kids with an age gap and a mum.

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