Just want a general idea if I'm being unreasonable or not. The Ex (from hell) and I have a strained relationship, we try to shield DS from this as much as possible and mainly communicate via email/txt as tempers were constantly flaring. Have received a message from The Ex to say that he would like me to retroactively pay half of the cost of a passport he had issued to take DS abroad. Now in principle I have no problem splitting the cost as I obviously hope to take DS away at some point in the (very far off) future and would then need use of said passport to do this. However I think what bugs me is that The Ex has made a consistent point of never paying a penny more for DS than CSA demand he pay (we did have an arrangement between ourselves for the first year but post argument over divorce issues The Ex contacted CSA himself and asked to go through them, effectively dropping over £100), even to the point of asking me to give him his share of nappies out of a pack for his weekends, as he refused to buy any of his own, and if i didn't give him enough would then drive over 45 mins back to pick more up from me then to just buy his own packet!!! Now again I'm quite happy to support DS myself and never ask for anything additional from The Ex who is in full time, well paid employment and has managed to go on at least 2 holidays with new GF and her children this year alone, whilst im in part time employment and have been recently recovering from cancer and subsequent treatments. But him asking for me to pay back half of the passport I think is a little bit of a p*take as I have just spent put over £100 on DS new school uniform, coat, shoes, P.E kit etc and never asked him for a penny. So I suppose me question is if he expects me to pay half of the passport as this is an "additional expense" is it fair for me to ask for him to contribute half towards the cost of the school uniform? As this is an additional expense to my normal household expenditure ?!...Tia x
(Oh and he's also said that the passport will be returned WHEN I pay the £27.50...effectively withholding until I pay him which makes me very uncomfortable)
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Elenasparkles · 22/08/2017 10:50
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