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To complain that my partner lasts 30 seconds in the sack?!

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CleanFreak123 Mon 21-Aug-17 22:33:42

No foreplay, lube straight out the drawer. He rolls me on my side and gives me 30 seconds.
I miss foreplay, feeling sexy, being turned on oh and having an orgasm!!!

60sname Mon 21-Aug-17 22:35:10

YANBU. But unless you send him a link to this thread, it would probably be more effective to talk to him!

Hassled Mon 21-Aug-17 22:35:22

So why are you tolerating it? Dump and move on.

stillvicarinatutu Mon 21-Aug-17 22:35:35

yanbu. not at all. have you told him??? i think id go on strike in those circs.

Mrscropley Mon 21-Aug-17 22:35:37

You need to take charge. If he doesn't last long introduce a sex toy into your sessions!!

PollyFlint Mon 21-Aug-17 22:36:31

YANBU not to enjoy that kind of sex, but YABU if you haven't done anything to tell him what you do like and if you keep just lying there letting him get on with it when you're not enjoying it.

wotabastard Mon 21-Aug-17 22:36:44

He rolls you on you side? hmm

What, like an inanimate object? Why do you go along with this?? confused

gamerchick Mon 21-Aug-17 22:38:14

So basically you're just there for him to dump his load?

Howay man lass, why are you letting him? Get the bugger told!

Aquamarine1029 Mon 21-Aug-17 22:38:17

Buy him a blow up doll. Seems like that's all he needs. Why are you putting up with this shit?

Catra Mon 21-Aug-17 22:40:11

YANBU. Sounds grim. Was it ever any good or has it become like this over time? How long have you been with him?

CleanFreak123 Mon 21-Aug-17 22:40:26

These replies are making me giggle. We have been together 7 years (not millions of years but still a fair while) we have also had a baby 16 weeks ago! I just want to put the vrooom back into the relationship xxx

Notgotajarofglue Mon 21-Aug-17 22:41:39

30 seconds would be ages in this house blush

Rosielily Mon 21-Aug-17 22:43:22

Is this even consensual? Xx

stillvicarinatutu Mon 21-Aug-17 22:44:26

ah. what was it like before the baby?

CleanFreak123 Mon 21-Aug-17 22:46:11

Notgotajarofglue this made me laugh 😂
Erm before baby we had better sex (not amazing I will say) after abort 5 years it kind of went down the pan I'd say!

Chattymummyhere Mon 21-Aug-17 22:46:22

Aye that sounds like a virgins first time. Sorry I laugh but seriously I would not be up for that I would rather have no sex than such bad fast sex.

CleanFreak123 Mon 21-Aug-17 22:47:13

Rosielilly I don't get chance to decline it all happens so quick 😂

NotTheCoolMum Mon 21-Aug-17 22:47:19

That is grim. You're a person OP not a wanksock

NotTheCoolMum Mon 21-Aug-17 22:47:30

That is grim. You're a person OP not a wanksock

wotabastard Mon 21-Aug-17 22:48:46

Why didn't you teach him how to handle you if it didn't come* naturally?

There's still time. Get him told when you're both fully clothed and relaxed.


stillvicarinatutu Mon 21-Aug-17 22:50:34

oh god i couldnt live wit that. tell him!

im mid 40s and i have the best sex ive had in my life. there is no way id go backward! we deserve decent sex if were gonna do it you know! whats the point if you get nothing from it?

LogicalPsycho Mon 21-Aug-17 22:50:38

There's a huge difference between having sex with a woman, and using her vagina for a wank.
Sounds like you're getting the shitty end of the stick op!

Chasingsquirrels Mon 21-Aug-17 22:51:08

I don't get chance to decline it all happens so quick


The only times my late-DH didn't make sure I came first was when I made it clear that I wanted to have sex with him, but wasn't in the mood to orgasm.
I just cast imagine what you've just described.

caffeinestream Mon 21-Aug-17 22:51:15

And you tolerate this...why?

Cinderllaspinkdresswasthebest Mon 21-Aug-17 22:52:58

for some reason this post reminds me of a lad banter 'any hole's a goal' bah!

Have some respect for yourself OP and stop being treat like a piece of meat

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