I've never posted before so please be gentle... I'm currently nearly 38 wks preg. I already have a child who is in reception at school and also have a DH. We live a couple of hundred miles from any family and only have a handful of friends locally.
Long story short- my mum was going to come to stay for a few weeks around my due date so we had 24/7 childcare when baby decides to appear, but this is no longer possible due to her having health problems. That's life - she genuinely isn't well enough and feels bad so I've told her not to worry and that I'll line up a friend to have DC so she doesn't worry... But there really isn't anyone to ask so it's looking pretty likely that the only solution is to go in on my own whilst DH looks after DC.
My AIBU is that DH is really dismissive about it. I'm a bit upset and as my due date draws closer, I'm having a wobble about being on my own. I'm hoping to go to a midwife led centre as I'm currently low risk, and my first birth was pretty straightforward- so fingers crossed that happens again. But I am hospital phobic and terrified of what will happen if any complications arise and I need to go to hospital for intervention or emcs on my own! DH also won't entertain me having a home birth either. I've tried to talk to DH about my fears, but he basically tells me to man up, stop looking for problems and just get on with it. I've looked into hiring a doula, but at around £800 we really can't afford it and DH thinks it's stupid anyway. The whole thing is making me increasingly anxious... But I'm not sure if DH is being really cold and unsupportive or whether he has a point, and I should try to get my emotions in check and try to just get on with it. I'm usually pretty tough and independent and self sufficient- so my emotional reaction over this is probably out of character to be fair to DH. Perfectly happy to be told iabu (kindly please) if you think I am.
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user1497814823 · 21/08/2017 18:39
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