My husband and i have been together 12 years married for 6 months.
A week ago he was talking about a place he had been to years ago, with an ex, he has spoken about it before, but could never remember where it was, so i (stupidly) said why dont you ask her, not thinking he would, never thought hed be interested in contacting her tbh but he, in the next second had his phone out sending her a friend request, so... I thought oh its fine, he just wants to know this place it a simple enough thing to find out! Anyway, they then proceeded to message each other all day, which i found out at bedtime, i was angry but thought ffs piss take! But then the next day i asked him if hed spoken to her that day and he said yes, which really got my back up, he recons they have alot to catch up on, its all platonic stuff, but it made me feel very insecure, but was trying to be ok with it, because i trust him, and who am i to say who he can and cant talk to! He said to me if i dont want him to talk he wont, but he seemed so happy to be talking to her i felt i should go with it, told him begrudgingly if he wants to be friends, fine but dont want him to be in constant touch with her, he seemed happy with that, but then i got thinking, wjy should i always put other peoples wants in front of my own, i felt insecure, uncomfortable with it, woeried old feelings might surface, and it inappropriate that hes a married man, shouldnt be having sessions of reminiaing with his first love, he had told me he would not want me doing the same thing, remininising with my ex, so i told him i did have a problem, i dont want them to be friends and told him basically what i put above, but was i unreasonable to do this? What are your opinions please
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Lovinglife17 · 21/08/2017 13:46
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